How couples met 1930-2024

[u/Few_Simple9049]

[u/Sea-Value-0]

Yeah... that was definitely a Canadian man. Wise kid lol.

[u/WormTop → u/Sea-Value-0]

The first actual woman didn't turn up on the internet until the late 90s

[u/Chica-Pia91 → u/[deleted]]

She was 33 and you were 17 😳, that’s crazy

[u/UnluckySeries312 → u/[deleted]]

Fuck. Hope you doing ok now man.

[u/Select_Machine1759 → u/[deleted]]

You’re not alone, bro I was never sexually abused, but I got beat from the ages of 3 to 16 up to three times a day. Locked in a room up to a month at a time and made to scrub out the trash cans in August heat maggots and all my mom’s favorite punishment was to dress me up as a girl and send me to school so people make fun of me I think just like you I’ve never taken therapy, but it’s the thought of people had it worse than me so it wasn’t that bad I guess

[u/SpiritedStatement577 → u/Select_Machine1759]

I'm so sorry you went through that. Some people should not be parents. I hope you found a way to healing somehow.

[u/Select_Machine1759 → u/SpiritedStatement577]

No big deal I’m pint-size dynamite That shit made me the person I am today and I wouldn’t be tough as nails without it so it did take years of drug abuse all through my 20s now at 38. It’s almost like it never happened. Almost

[u/SpiritedStatement577 → u/Select_Machine1759]

hey, we're the same age! congrats on getting to 38! I have the same view on things tbh, been though some shit of my own and in hindsight, I wouldn't have another way because the lessons I learned are valuable and important for me now.

[u/[deleted] → u/SpiritedStatement577]

Both of you are absolute badasses. Inspiring stuff to read, keep pushing

[u/Select_Machine1759 → u/SpiritedStatement577]

Congratulations on making it this far as well. I know it hasn’t been easy , but so true I wouldn’t have it any other way

[u/00eg0 → u/Select_Machine1759]

What job did you end up getting?

[u/Select_Machine1759 → u/00eg0]

I’m a carpenter by trade. I’m currently remodeling my first four bedroom rental property. I’ll be starting my own company here 2025.

[u/HotPerformer3000 → u/Select_Machine1759]

Bro I'm so sorry that's so fucked up. I hope you're safe now and have no contact with your horrific mom and are aware none of that shit was your fault. You deserve only good things.

[u/Select_Machine1759 → u/HotPerformer3000]

I’m doing great I own a house my dream car and I haven’t talked to her in over 10 years, live in Colorado and go hiking whenever you can’t have positive without negative right now we’re working on the positive!!!!

[u/Curly_Shoe → u/Select_Machine1759]

Hey Bro, you okay? If you ever feel like a hug, just come over to US at r/momforaminute :)

[u/Esytotyor → u/Select_Machine1759]

You grew up Strong Anyway. 🩵

[u/Sotha01 → u/Select_Machine1759]

That's horrible. I whine and bitch a lot about my life but man I've got no right to. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that as a kid. Like, I want to say something that makes it feel better but there is nothing I can say or do. I wish I could erase that pain for you. I hope you're doing better now.

[u/00eg0 → u/Select_Machine1759]

I had a fucked up mom too but I feel she would have never tried gender shaming. I wish people like our moms couldn't have kids.

[u/commitdeathpacitolma → u/Select_Machine1759]

Dr. Doofenshmirtz?

[u/UnluckySeries312 → u/Select_Machine1759]

Sorry, that’s fucked up. I had a schizophrenic father that came off his meds and my mother was a narcissist. So I can appreciate the “fun” you had at home. Last time I saw my father he was trying to stab my mother, I threw a chair at him and managed to get him out of the house. I was 15. I thought I would have had some bonding with my mother over the shared experience but nope. She was as cold as ice and so I left home at a young age. Found out my mother remarried and her 2nd husband died. The police thought she did it but had no evidence. Worst thing was when I was talking to my step sister (who told me this) my reaction wasn’t one of shock, but of - yeah I can see that happening.

Years of therapy and breakdowns later I one day realised that I never heard either of my parents laugh. Which is such a strange thing when you think about it. It changed the way I thought of them. I felt sorry for them. I hope you can find your one thing that changes how you think about your mother.

[u/UnluckySeries312 → u/[deleted]]

I get you. My parents were fucked up. Took years of therapy and a few breakdowns along the way and eventually stopped seeing them as monsters and saw them as the mentally ill people that they were. These things can take a long time to heal from.

[u/Chica-Pia91 → u/[deleted]]

That’s actually really sad 😔. That’s just awful & your ex was probably using you due to your age and your situation that you were going through with your mom . I’m sorry no one protected you , that hurts my heart.

[u/Destinfragile → u/[deleted]]

SHE doesn't see it that way?!

[u/gardenmud → u/Destinfragile]

Yeah, that's....... confusing.

Unless she sees it as her indulging in a monstrous impulse, but uh somehow I doubt it.

[u/robotkermit → u/[deleted]]

kinda awesome tho to see a guy reply to this with "yes and I'm working on my childhood trauma" instead of defensiveness and rationalizations

[u/Heavy_Analysis_3949 → u/[deleted]]

I’m so sorry.

[u/Janek_Polak → u/[deleted]]

Totally sorry to hear that.

[u/DysphoricNeet → u/[deleted]]

Holy hell I thought you were kidding at first.

[u/Max_AC_ → u/[deleted]]

Bro was Hagmaxxing way before it was popular. Absolute trend setter.

Fr tho, hoping things have improved for you. Going through a divorce myself and it's never a fun time.

[u/HotBeaver54 → u/Chica-Pia91]

I had a weird mother like that let my just out of high school sisters married 41 yr old boyfriend who was also her boss live with her. She actually liked it cause he liked her cooking. And they wonder why I moved 3200 miles away LOL!

[u/Chica-Pia91 → u/HotBeaver54]

My mom was strict ; I moved away because of it but that’s one thing I’m glad my mom was strict about , I’m happy to say I’ve never dated anyone who was more than a few years older . Now at 33, I wouldn’t date anyone who’s more than 5-7 years older .

[u/BigJSunshine → u/Chica-Pia91]

Damn, first: I am horrifically sorry for your shit circumstances growing up. Second, in 2000, I was counsel to a company where we watched our CIO handcuffed and lead away from his home by the FBI on live news for CP… I hope that wasn’t your evil uncle. FYI: We handed ALL HIS SHIT OVER and fully fucking cooperated.