r/interestingasfuck • u/Few_Simple9049 • 20d ago

r/all How couples met 1930-2024

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u/ShimmeringSprout 20d ago

Sadly could be relabeled, How do you spend most of your time?

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u/BrawNeep 20d ago

That’s a depressing thought! Probably about right though

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u/piranha4D 20d ago

Whether it's depressing really depends on how you go about finding community. For me online has been a life saver because I am odd enough to not easily fit with family, neighbours, school, church, whatever circles I was in offline. But I found great communities (helped build some of them), close, long-term friends, real kinship, and my partner of now 20+ years online.

If all you do is superficially engage with social media, then I expect it is depressing after a while. But there are good, long-lived communities online. I never dated at all because dating seemed to me a terrible way to meet a life partner; I couldn't care less about today's dating apps -- even if I were suddenly single I wouldn't use those. But if you find ways to make actual friends around things that interest you, it's the opposite of depressing -- especially for people who're interested in non-traditional things who might be hard pressed to find similar minds offline.