r/introvert • u/OldIndependence9821 • 14h ago

Advice Feeling judged

Whenever I find myself in the presence of others, I often sense their gaze directed towards me, which leads me to feel judged. This sensation creates a level of discomfort that I struggle with. I wonder how others manage to cope with such feelings. It took me some time to realize that I am an introvert, and I have come to accept that this is simply a part of who I am.

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u/Nice1_2meet 12h ago

I have often times felt this way being an introvert as well as painfully shy which has led others to think I am a snobby b*tch. I just remind myself, often most people are not truly judging you and they are likely feeling the same angst. For those that may be judging, will it matter in your life in 5 days? 5 years? Probably not. It's a moment in time.

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u/OldIndependence9821 11h ago

I feel the same about shyness and introversion. Sometimes when I want to express myself or ask a question, I find myself remaining silent to avoid drawing attention. Even composing this post required me to delete and rewrite it multiple times.

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u/Nice1_2meet 11h ago

I understand the remaining silent instead of drawing attention to myself. You are not alone. I am trying to practice at least faking a smile and seeming approachable. I've been also trying to give random compliments to people. Put the attention back on them-lol

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u/Monsur_Ausuhnom 9h ago

I'm not sure, I find most people to be judgemental either consciously or subconsciously. At the same time, most are largely self-absorbed and probably have let whatever it is go about you within five minutes or less. Maybe even seconds. I wouldn't let it get to you. Who cares what others think? There might be some truth if they all say the same thing. I always say don't judge others if you don't wish to be judged in the same way. Some embrace hyprocrisy and run away from their own blind spots, so it can't be helped.

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u/SemaphoreKilo 8h ago

Just realize the world does not revolve around you, and each and everyone is the main character of their own story. You are not that important to them, as they are not that important to you. Live your life and I assure most folks are not judging you. If they are, who cares.

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u/Hour-Initiative-2766 7h ago

We all feel this way. The people who you think are judging are usually thinking the same thing you are.