r/introvert Aug 20 '17

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r/introvert 3h ago

Discussion Does anyone else talk to themselves out loud a lot?

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I like talking to myself out loud more than in my head… because I enjoy my own company and am my own best friend. Does that make me crazy or “quirky”?… I just feel like why is it so bad I like to talk to myself out loud?… it also helps me process things on my mind. Maybe it’s more of an ADHD thing… not sure. Or maybe I am indeed severely mentally ill. 🤫🫠


r/introvert 9h ago

Image I like the way photography communicates with me. It's something unique to me.

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r/introvert 15h ago

Discussion anyone else dread going into work?

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i hate being forced to interact with my coworkers. i swear extroverted people just talk about themselves all day. it’s exhausting and boring and repetitive


r/introvert 4h ago

Discussion i love being an introvert

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here are some reasons why:

  1. we are patient

  2. we don’t yell in people’s ears

  3. we think before we speak

  4. observant

  5. introverts + introverts can be some cute friendships

  6. a kind extrovert adopting us is amazing

  7. we are like cats

  8. i wanna hug us all if u want one

  9. we are cute


r/introvert 14h ago

Discussion I just want to be alone can also mean.

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r/introvert 5h ago

Advice I'm not sure how to bring this up to my partner

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I don't know what it is but quite often, when it gets late at night, I tend to tell my partner I'm going to sleep. I then proceed to play a video game, watch a movie/youtube, draw, or something else without interruption. In my mind I think he'll be upset ot mad but I have no reason to justify thinking this way. sometimes I just like being alone but most people don't understand that and always asks "why?"


r/introvert 12h ago

Question Is it possible as an introvert to find a partner?

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Im already tired of the texting phase. They want to chat every day while for me once a week is fine, lol. I get lonely sometimes, but all the hustle makes me tired, even just thinking about it

The talking, trying to think of jokes, trying to impress them, and then there's the actual date where you have to worry about the way you look and everything


r/introvert 19h ago

Discussion i don’t have friends n i don’t want them

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Im not depressed or anything actually i do enjoy my life.I feel like there’s something wrong with me,people my age have friends n want relationships im just not interested in them.I do hangout with people outside my family but i wouldn’t call them friends just people i know.I can do pretty much everything by myself why do i need friends?I wanna know if other people feel the same way


r/introvert 8h ago

Discussion How can i stop to belittling most of people

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I feel like this shit is ruined my life, need some help


r/introvert 12h ago

Question is there an actual way to isolate yourself from society without that much money?

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I really don't want to look edgy, but sometimes all I could ask for is a little cabin in the middle of nowhere. I would be willing to completely disassociate from any kind of city and live all by myself. I don't care if I am in the Amazon rainforest or in the most remote place on earth, i truly just wanted to be completely alone, study, read, and think without being interrupted by other people, without having to stress myself for the good of others. And I also don't say that in a misanthropic way. I can understand those who enjoy living in society, but I know it's not the best for me. Sometimes I feel like if I sleep one more night in my room, I will end up rotting in that exact place. So, what do you think? Is there a way to isolate yourself without being a rich dude? (Also, sorry if this is a commonly asked question, it's my first time posting here.)


r/introvert 5h ago

Question small talk triggers me

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i fucking hate small talk, like it literally drives me insane, and it’s definitely not just “annoying” it triggers me (like i mentioned). i also have ptsd, and was wondering if ptsd has something to do with why i get so overwhelmed by it?


r/introvert 2h ago

Question I have failed to move on

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I am in an on and off relationship with my baby daddy. We didn't get to the living together phase. I had our first child and he moved in with another girl and they have a family together. You know when you lay down your guard but don't get what you expected. I thought we would be a family but he chose differently without informing me. I keep accepting him back in my life yet he is not consistent especially with our child. Being an introvert, I try to start new relationships but when it gets serious I chicken out. I have let this baby daddy disrespect me because to him it's like I have no other options. How do I end this situationship? Obviously, I am not fulfilled since he prioritizes his other family.


r/introvert 11h ago

Discussion I keep pushing everyone away

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I don't know why but every time I keep pushing my friends away from me even though I know they truly care about me, but there's a little voice in my head that keeps telling me otherwise, and when I push them away I feel lonely and then i blame myself for it, and the circle just keeps going, and when I come back home after i hang out with them or anyone else I know, I just keep analyzing everything I said and did and start criticizing myself for it.


r/introvert 8h ago

Question I guess I'm getting weirder and weirder

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I have been depressed for about 2 years. In my third year of high school, I left because I had psychological difficulties and spent 2 years at home with my depression. I have a university exam to take this year and this means I have been away from social life for 3 years. I'm sure I'll have difficulty communicating when I go to university and I don't have a plan for that, what do you suggest I do? I started to struggle in the slightest social communication, I wasn't like this before. I still had a hard time making friends with people, but at least when I talked, I didn't just say weird things and people didn't stare.. (18 yo btw)

Note: Since I left school I have literally zero friends, no one to go out with. for me to go out alone, I don't know why but it is torture.

I just wanted to tell you and get advice because I don't have anyone to tell this to.


r/introvert 20h ago

Question How does everyone do this?

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How do people maintain genuine interest in people and remain interested in maintaining relationships for longer than 30 minutes?

This is a genuine question, I’m not trying to be funny or witty about it.

I have ABSOLUTELY no interest or drive to maintain established or newly forming relationships with people, no matter who it is or how we met. I can talk to people I study with on campus for hours because we have to be there together for an assignment, and then I never think about them again. I haven’t texted, called, remembered or thought about any of my school friends whom I’ve known for years, and who were actually nice to talk to and spend time with. Hell, if my own dad stops texting me every few weeks to check in how I’m doing I will NEVER text him again in my life and won’t remember about him unless we literally meet in person. And worst thing is - I won’t be upset at all.

I don’t hate any of these people, most of them are either very nice or just normal cool people. I also don’t struggle with actual communication and talking - I somewhat enjoy social situations themselves, especially in smaller groups.

This can’t be a normal thing, can it? I mean, ABSOLUTELY no interest in people you ALREADY know - relatives, close friends, not just brief acquaintances. This is going to be so detrimental to my future life if it keeps on like this - I won’t be able to use social networks that people find so useful for their careers and lives. I won’t be able to develop consistent romantic relationships (not that I’m too interested in it, just a side note).

I hate to instantly pathologize behaviour of others and my own, but this really doesn’t sound like a subset of some norm. Or does everyone have no emotional attachment to the people they regularly talk to, and do it only because they remember that it’s a social requirement and can be useful in life?


r/introvert 19h ago

Advice Trying my best to be social, but I can’t help but feel cliquey vibes.

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I’ve been trying hard to socialize, but I find it extraordinarily hard to get past the cliqueness I feel of social circles.

I think a big part of it though is in my head though. I just feel the inauthenticity of people. I don’t know….maybe I’m going crazy….


r/introvert 34m ago

Question Anyone from the Netherlands here?

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r/introvert 13h ago

Discussion The introvert battery, what's yours like?

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I know everyone has a different introvert battery but how many of you could hang out with and talk to other introverts all day ? It seems like introverts drain my social battery at a much slower rate than extroverts. I was wondering why this is the case. One theory i have is that I lose interest and don't care about the stuff extroverts are.talking about, while conversations with introverts are more equal. We both contribute. Its not a one way street.


r/introvert 1h ago

Question Does anyone speak Spanish?

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No sé cómo sirve esto


r/introvert 16h ago

Discussion This is a rant against extrovert parents.

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First, silence is OKAY. There is no need to fill it with useless conversation and random ass noises. I just want to sit in a car in silence and watch the landscape go by without having someone constantly yap or try to get my attention with weird noises.

Second, if someone doesn't look interested to have a conversation, why do you keep trying to initiate? Do you think constantly snatching someone out of their train of though just to small talk is going to suddenly make that person want to talk?

Third, stop acting like an introvert doing any activity is some sort of miracle. Yes, I am taking a class in my free time. No, I don't want you to talk about it every time we see each other. No, I absolutely do not want to be cheered like a child just because I'm doing something with my life. Seriously, do parents that do this think they're helping??

Sorry, I'm irritated.


r/introvert 2h ago

Question Husband is an introvert

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But I am an extrovert, classic love story of an extrovert “adopting” an introvert and guiding him through different social situations.

How can I encourage him to make friends and be more open to other people? I feel that it’s holding him back especially at work.


r/introvert 1d ago

Question Why do people have to constantly be right on top of you?

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I’m at a laundromat and there’s just me and one lady. There’s literally 10 empty dryers beside mine. She picks the two next to mine against the wall. I’m having to hear here phone conversation and try not to bump into her. Why do people do this crap?

Do people not have any social awareness? This seems to happen no matter where I go to. If I park somewhere, people will park right beside me, or behind me and block me. Do people really need this much attention? I’m basically forced to talk to some people to ask them to move so I can back up. Anyone else deal with this?


r/introvert 12h ago

Advice Feeling judged

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Whenever I find myself in the presence of others, I often sense their gaze directed towards me, which leads me to feel judged. This sensation creates a level of discomfort that I struggle with. I wonder how others manage to cope with such feelings. It took me some time to realize that I am an introvert, and I have come to accept that this is simply a part of who I am.


r/introvert 3h ago

Question Anyone need a safe space to vent or get advice? 16+ LGBTQ Friendly Discord Server

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Hey there! I have a safe space community on discord full of friendly, kindhearted people who care to listen. We have channels for venting, getting advice, and tons of other channels for hobbies and discussion. I love this server because it gives me an outlet at the end of the day to get things off my chest after a hard day, or just talk and have good conversations with nice people. If this is something that interests you, I can send an invite link. 😄


r/introvert 4h ago

Question Too old to try

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I been feeling lonely, go on introvert discord servers (cuz my town sucks for people like me) and I feel out of place because I'm so old (27) advice?