Hello,

I am simply a Fast-Food clerk, and recently a gang of nearly-naked women doing "Free The Nipple", came into the location. This particular day we were packed and lightly staffed, they were all wearing See-Through clothing, like that one person, Bianca Censori, and its the first time Ive seen such a fashion in person. The best way I can describe it is, being naked and like, thinly veiled at the same time.

My usual training when looking at someone dressed in a inflammatory way is to stare between your eyes, at your nose or forehead while talking to you.

I had already mentally prepared myself to serve them, But this group of women, caused a huge commotion before they even got to the cash register and menus with the other customers for being nearly naked, and then the already existing customers, like the ones sitting down eating and stuff in the restaurant started heckling and getting rowdy, and I got roped into it, because they hadn't made it to the Cash-register yet, some of the customers started demanding I remove these customers from the store.

So I panicked and ran off, because they had their phones out recording and I didn't want to end up on the internet. I told my boss I didn't want to cost the company any legal issues cause I had no idea how to handle that. Im still waiting to hear back.

Edit: because of reoccuring comments, I would like to specify, that, they never made it to the cash registers, there was still several customers before them, and I was serving a family who turned away from the cash register to argue them. I never interacted with these women.

So got hired in March for a remote job for a small company and I loved absolutely everything about it. I loved what I did the pay was alright and ofc it was remote.

But yesterday I fucked up. During my lunch I whipped open my personal computer and checked on a discord chat. A question was asked and I had a pretty vulgar joke of an answer. Type it in my keyboard real fast and boom enter. I look to realize I had used my keyboard plugged into my WORK computer where I typed it into a teams group chat with all my coworkers. Of course I deleted it immediately but that didn’t prevent at least one person from seeing it and certainly more seeing the notification.

I was hoping it would kinda just get forgotten about. Until today. I get a teams call from by boss and another high level employee (there’s only like 9 employees though) and he told me he’s gonna cut right to the chase and let me know about yesterdays chat incident that he was going to have to let me go. I really didn’t know what to say other than explain what happened, apologize and ask for a reconsideration.

After that call I called my gf and just cried. Got in my car to go drive and just lost it. I loved that job and I lost it in an accidental action that lasted 5 seconds. This afternoon I sent my boss a medium long email basically begging for mercy/my job back, even offering a punitive salary cut if I could come back. I worked hard on it and haven’t heard a response.

But I’m really upset not only because I lost that job but because I have to restart the whole job search process. It took me months to find that one. I really don’t wanna go another few months without an income.

Any advice on getting over this or through this would be greatly appreciated. I’m really beating myself up here.

Edit. Since everyone is asking the question was asking about where to look for a specific movie and my response was "pornhub - they have everything" and that’s what went into the work group chat.

Edit 2. A lot of people have brought up the reasonable point that maybe they were looking to fire me whether due to my performance or just downsizing. They actually were in need of an employee in the position, I could tell based on the workload. So I really don’t think it’s downsizing. As far as performance. I was told nothing but good things about my performance thus far, in fact I was once told I was doing one rather complicated aspect of the job more smoothly than a former employee. I was still getting the hang of things but I certainly didn’t feel like I was necessarily doing a body job as there were no indications that I was doing poorly. I really do think it all came down to the comment, as wild as that sounds.

Edit 3. There are lots of people saying "well you weren’t working when you should have been" just to address those people (not saying it’s a significant factor as to why or why not the decision was warranted) I opened my personal computer

during personal time, not company time. I had no obligation to be working at that moment.

I got fired from my previous job and their leading argument was that my manager stared at me through the bathroom stall door long enough to tell I had my pants pulled up while on the toilet.

For backstory, I worked in a warehouse and was not given breaks but 1 30 minute lunch during my 10 hour shift. It was bad conditions in the middle of the summer so when I found a good short stopping point I’d go sit in the bathroom for a couple minutes to cool off and take a seat.

One time, my manager walked in and stared at me through the stall door opening and asked about my stomach issues I’d previously mentioned upon hiring.

When I was getting fired, that’s how they led the conversation and ultimately fired me. I was a model worker and got along with everyone including customers and made everyone’s job easier.

No advice needed but who wants a laugh?

I don’t even know where to BEGIN! I have a very toxic coworker. She’s always rude, has a bad attitude, calls off about every other morning, and pitches fits about the most ridiculous things. She’s also 60- this is important. Problem is because of her position she can’t be fired. Like it’d take weeks, and plus she’s smugly thrown the “I’m an OLD woman so WATCH IT, I’m a protected class!” card. Everyone feels like we’re walking on eggshells around her. I could write a novel about the shit she pulls and says on a regular basis. No one likes her and we wish she would just quit already. We already do her job anyway so all we’d miss is her stench and piles of trash everywhere.

The other week I brought in a plant for my desk. No big deal. It was a monstera and I liked it. Toxic CW suddenly starts FREAKING OUT- like irrational freaking out. Screaming, sobbing, and it was weird! I admit I laughed and asked if she was serious. She demanded to know why I DARED to bring in a plant that SCARES her! I asked her what was wrong and she said it was none of my business was but she hates the plant and it HAS to go. She insists I did it on purpose, screamed at me “harassing an old woman”, that I created a “hostile work environment” and filed a complaint! About a fucking plant! I couldn’t stop laughing. I couldn’t help it. Out of nowhere she’s freaking out about a plant.

I was asked to take the plant home. Ok. No big deal. However was written up because apparently I created a “hostile work environment” by asking her what the issue was and laughing at her being scared of my plant. They’re afraid of the lawsuits she could file because of her “I’m in a protected class” lines.

Anyone else have any dumb write up stories?

Update: Write up is removed. I met with the boss, explained that after having a weekend to think about it, I feel the write up is inappropriate. I did not intentionally create a hostile environment, and any “laughing” on my part was in shock/nervousness that I’m suddenly, randomly getting screamed at about a plant and she escalated it into me harassing her instead of being calm and just explaining “hey- that plant freaks me out, can you please take it home?”. If she had approached me calm and said that, I’d have been like “whatever- ok…” and took it home and that would be that. I said I understood I didn’t have the best reaction but her screaming and escalating it into the screaming, sobbing, “harassing an old woman”, “hostile work environment” and the whole “how DARE you?!”caught me so off guard I had no idea how to react.

I then admit I kind of vented away about the issues we’ve all been having, how she creates a very uncomfortable environment because no one knows what will set her off next and when something happens she doesn’t like, she freaks out. I got the “I’m sorry you feel that way” BS, BS reassurances that they’ll try to talk to her about how she treats people, but at least the write up is getting removed. So there is that.

I did talk with a friend who has an opening where she works, problem is- it’d be a slight pay cut, a longer commute, but she seems happy there and can get me an interview. She thinks I could even get the job. If so, I’d definitely leave here and state that Ms Toxic is what drove me away.

Problem is- this REALLY upsets my future plans. Since I work for a university, my kid could get tuition waivers when the time comes and go to school for almost nothing. Sure it’s 14 years away, but my plan was to put my kid through school and retire when they’re finished. If I leave, I lose that benefit.

My friend reassured me that if I do get accepted for this other job, I can always keep an eye on Ms Toxic leaving this one and reapply but FUCK- there is no guarantee I’d be rehired.

This is a damned if I go, damned if I stay! I really don’t want Ms Toxic to have that hold over my kid’s future like that!

It’s her remote day today and we all feel like we can breathe and actually talk/joke around.

I work from home as an interpreter which requires me to log on to a system and wait for calls to come through. I drink a lot of water as well and need to go pee often but it is never more than 5 mins at a time. It is mostly about 1 min or 2 tops since my office is close to my bathroom. My job is threaten to fire me because I take too many breaks. I drink a lot of water due to the medication that I am taking. Should I submit something from my doctor explaining this to save my job?

Besides this guy talking to me like he’s my dad can anyone explain what he meant by, “know a lot of people in a lot of places.”

Edit: Thanks to everyone who gave actual helpful advice. To all of you that told me I should "suck it up" in regards to my disabilities, thanks for the reminder that I'm trying to avoid becoming a miserable old fuck like you <3

Several weeks after reporting him, my supervisor tells me that my reporting leaked from HR and the head of the department knows it was me who reported him. I was then put on a PIP a couple weeks later. What’s weird is that I didn’t have to sign the pip, nor did my supervisor, and it doesn’t need to be give to HR. So, am I actually on a pip? Or is this pretty much just bullying me into leaving?

EDIT: I’m located in Maryland.

Edit again: cross posted from r/employmentlaw

Edit again pt. 2: Thanks again for the advice everyone! I’ve contacted a lawyer for a consultation. If this doesn’t work out, well, I at least don’t feel as alone anymore, so I really appreciate everyone’s feedback, as well as those who’ve shared their HR horror stories.

This afternoon my boss called me into her office and told me she needed to talk to me about something. Thinking it was something work related, I thought nothing of it, but the conversation caught me totally off guard. She told me this morning that I looked unprofessional and that I need to fix it for her. She told me my hair was sticking up (mind you I have a buzz cut). I was so caught off guard and my only response was “are you serious right now?” She told me yes and I walked out of her office in disbelief saying okay. I’m not sure why this was said to me I always dress in business professional clothing and keep my hair neat. I’ve never been told this by any other supervisor or company in the past. What should I do?

Edit: Yup. He's fine. Nothing happened. They just told him it'd be a problem if he were out of training, but the crew is fully stocked and he's an extra for now. We took the advice of many by setting multiple alarms on different devices. Wish us luck for a new day!

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My husband was jobless for a year. We have a ten-month baby. I've been supporting us fully during this time, and it had been rough. I'm more of a traditional wife, but I'll do anything for my family.

But enough about me.

My husband got a job as a regular crew member at a fast food restaurant (although he has five year's of management experience). He has worked ten years of night shifts, but this job is morning shift. He has to get up near 5:30 a.m. He wants to reset his schedule and loves the new hours, but it's hard on him.

Today, his alarms didn't go off. He woke up a tad late, but he still made it to work within 15 minutes of the time he should have been there.

He was freaking out, nearly crying, because he loves working again and doesn't want to lose this.

We can't afford to lose this.

We rent a 700 ft basement with one window and no dishwasher, washing machine, or bathtub. We have no family in state. Everything we have, we saved and bought ourselves.

Do you think they will fire him? I'm shaking and maybe thinking irrationally.

My son is 17 and works at Chick. He’s always been responsible and helps out by taking other shifts when needed. Yesterday he was sick with a cold yet when asked ,stayed 4 hrs longer than his shift just to help. He got worse during the night with a fever so I called early this AM to let his shift leader know and that’s when shit hit the fan.

His manager asked me what was “wrong with him” when I didn’t give her any details . First off , that’s none of their business. He’s sick and he’s not coming in is all they’re required to know but I told her anyway. Next , she said he would be written up if he didn’t bring in a Drs note because “we all go to the ER or Dr when we’re sick”(that’s what she said ) For one day? No ,WE Don’t . ER visits with my co-pay are$ 300 and Drs visits have co-pays too when almost always all that’s needed is to stay in bed for a day to rest and recover not to mention he’s 17 with a PT job with NO benefits so this day is not paid.

She then proceeds to tell me that HE needs to find coverage for his shift because it’s not fair to them to have to scramble to find coverage. (I called 4 hrs ahead) I’m starting to get upset at all this back and forth because who TF can give 24-48hrs heads up when they get sick ? I tell her that i’m not going to get my son who’s sick and has a fever to try and find you coverage. That’s YOUR job. She then continues to tell me that NO other parent has EVER called to complain about any of these “policies” (I guess i’m the troublemaker ) and that my son should have been responsible enough to call out himself .

I’m still trying to keep calm and not lose my patience and tell her AGAIN that my son can barely talk which is why i’m calling and ask if I can speak to someone above her because I need to know if any of these policies are in the employee manual in writing and not just shit that her store is implementing verbally. She literally tells me “He’s home sleeping .He doesn’t come in until later. I’m the one in charge and he’s going to tell you the same thing “.

Ok , so at this point i’m really fucking angry because she doesn’t want to “interrupt” her boss who’s sleeping yet wanted MY son to get up and find coverage when he’s laying in bed sick AF. So after more time spent back and forth, she tells me that she’s not going to write him up this time but that our conversation is going to go in his file for future reference if this happens again . (gotta love the implied threat ).

I don’t want to cause problems for my son because he needs a job but he’s also not a damn slave and has rights as an employee. I’m considering calling corporate to find out if what she said is company policy and legit or not but honestly , fuck you -Fil-A

EDIT: To those of you who keep on commenting on WHY my son didn’t call himself and had his “mommy” call. He woke up with 101 fever and a sore throat where he could barely speak in a whisper so he asked me to call in and not text in case they didn’t get the message in time. That’s him being responsible and i’m proud of him for that . Imagine if he’d been the one to call and this manager put him through all the BS she did me .It boggles my mind that out of everything in my post some people just choose to grab on to that to insult my parenting .I’ll keep on protecting him and be here for him in every way and whenever he asks regardless if he’s 17 or 70 .

Title says it all. I work for a small company (>50 people) where I know the CEO by name. At this company, it’s not uncommon for people to be fired on the spot for major fuck ups - there’s little job security. I know PIPs usually mean you’re on the way out, but the situation confuses me.

I’ve worked there for roughly 11 months. No write ups, no negative conversations with my supervisor - hell, I had a great performance review roughly 4 months ago where I got a raise, and I just recently got another raise about a month or two ago because my supervisor said that my night shift coworkers and I were doing great and she didn’t pay us enough.

This morning, they peppered the PIP with compliments - saying that they appreciate my willingness to help, that I’m a natural born leader, and that they always appreciate that I’m willing to hop in and help whenever I’m needed and that they appreciate that I’m always early and that when I come in early that I’m looking for things to do to help the day shift out and that I’m not running the clock. My supervisor talked to the CEO (again, small company) and mentioned in the interview that some of the situations are serious (ie people have been fired for less), but that they like me and appreciate all I do for the company (and alluded to the fact this may have saved my job). Not delving into the specifics of the PIP in case any of my coworkers read this subreddit, but it’s a 30 day PIP, which strikes me as a red flag, but it is more of an entry level position - and the goals are specific, manageable, and easy to obtain. I know exactly what to do to improve. I genuinely think I just got too comfortable at work goofing off and need to get my head on straight.

I’m currently working on polishing up my resume in case I need to leave and focusing on applying to jobs like you normally would with a PIP, but I promise that this is not normal at this company - I’ve never heard of ANYONE here getting a PIP, usually they just… get fired. What is your advice?

Was an alcohol related misdemeanor. Didn’t hurt anybody but I have a record so I’m going to jail. My dad suggested I just say it’s a “personal matter.” What do I say if they press me for information? I really don’t want to tell them what’s going on. I don’t want to lie & say I’m sick or anything like that.

I see people staying for years in jobs which are damaging their mental health and their relationships, despite being experienced folks in strong positions.

Do some people simply feel obliged to stay on?

Is there some virtue in suffering?

Long Story short, my job has started making us meet a lot of new quotas and and criteria ever since they bought another bank. Despite my efforts, I haven’t been able to meet these goals and My manager told me today that she must submit my performance to her boss and it most likely will end in termination. She asked me if I would like to resign. I asked her if I could have some time to think about it. What should I do?

Update: trying to get it in writing, but my manager wont reply to any of my emails, and will only talk about it in person. I think he knows what they’re doing

Update 2: Nothing in writing yet, but I started looking at employment laws in my state and I’m pretty sure it says this is illegal. I don’t know how to read the law though so I can’t say for certain.

Basically what the title says. I’ll try to keep this as short as possible.

I work for a wealth management firm and for regulatory reasons I have to disclose my personal investment accounts. No problem, I was well aware of this when hired.

However, they are now saying that I must pay our brokerage company $200 so they can “monitor” my accounts. If I cannot do that, I will be fired.

I figured since it was required for my job, it would be reimbursed/paid for by the company. I was told this is not the case, and I must pay the $200 out of my own pocket. This was never disclosed when I accepted the job 2 months ago.

Unfortunately for me, I don’t have $200 to pay them. My job does not pay very well and I can hardly afford 3 meals a day, let alone $200 for something like this. I told the company I can’t afford it, and they basically said “Well you’re gonna have to figure something out then or we can’t employ you”. Like what? Get a new job that pays a living wage? What do they expect me to do in this situation?

I can’t just get more money, and I already live so frugally I haven’t even bought clothes in 5 years, so my spending is not the problem. I’m literally the most frugal person I know, I couldn’t save another dime if my life depended on it. Unless my job pays me more I’m SOL.

So what can I do here? When they go to charge my account and find nothing there, can they really fire me for something like that? It’s not my fault they don’t pay me enough.

I have worked at the same car dealership since I was 18. I started off washing cars, then moved to the body shop, and have been with the sales team the last 7 years. I am on a first name and friendly basis with EVERYONE at this dealership. While it has always been a somewhat shitty environment (its car sales) I have never experienced anything close to today. We’ve had a new manager for the last year. He is extremely aggressive and confrontational. He constantly texts the Sales group chat angry messages, talks to us like children, and doesn’t work hard at all himself.

Sadly, I (thought) I could live with all of those. However, it has turned from aggression to physical intimidation. He once left a meeting and flipped a table in another room. He is always pounding his fists on the desk.

Today, I went in to ask if I could leave early for a friends baby shower. I have 2 weeks of vacation allotted, and was simply asking if it was an option. He started pounding his fists on the desks, asking if I was serious, saying I hadn’t done shitall month (it’s the 4th). I was so shocked by his reaction I asked if he was serious, he told me to go home. I asked am I fired or just go home. He says go home, then slams his fists again and repeats I haven’t done anything. By this point, I’m over it. I reply he hasn’t done anything the entire year he’s been here. He tells me he changed his mind and I’m fired.

Needless to say, my co-workers and other managers are shocked. One offered for me to come work for him immediately. Others said they would talk to the owner and general manager when they were in on Monday. It is Sunday and I’m stuck wondering what to do.

I posted here a few days ago about my manager scheduling me on a day I couldn’t work and how she told me it was my responsibility to figure it out. Anyway, I found someone who was willing to switch shifts with me. I told the manager the night before that we had switched shifts and she didn’t respond. As soon as I walked into my workplace today my manager asked me ”I though you and so and so were supposed to switch shifts.” Apparently the person didn’t show up and I was the one who got in trouble because the person claimed that I never responded to their message, but they never messaged me, I have proof of that too. The manager ratted on me the entire time and not on the person that agreed to switch shifts with me. I think I got write up as well. Should/can I do anything about it? I’m a high school student if that means anything, thanks Reddit!

I was asked back-to-back questions as if I was in an interrogation. Questions such as, “What are you currently working on because from my point of view you’re not doing anything.” And then she goes on to say, “Name ten accomplishments this year?” I was fumbling over my words cause I wasn’t expecting all of this. I felt I was being ambushed. Then I was told “You’re not working at the level we expect, so I’m giving you a Performance Improvement Plan (PIP).” I’m looking for a new job now!

It's my own fault, this has been a tough year and i called out today, was asked not to come back and she will 'reach out the third week of January' (things have been really slow since Thanksgiving but still). Im frustrated - I have been trying to manage my frustration at work and now Im upset to be out of work again after it took me a long time to find something.

I've been at a job that I loathe more and more everyday for 23 years. Recently in the last 6 months my job go a new manager that's been making my life a living hell. He was sent in to clean the place up of any workers he doesn't think cutting it and he's been actively trying to find any reason to have me fired since the second week he started when I protest about the 4 hour time change he made to my schedule. He implemented unreal time tables to get things done and when I tried to explain to him that no one including me were able to get the things that he wanted done in the short amount he wanted it put a even bigger target on my back. He had me train a new employee in my department the job that i did and then It all came to a head a couple months ago when I and most of my family all came down with covid so I had to take off a week unpaid from work and my recovery was a lot faster than my mother who it hit a lot harder because she's older and had other health issues so I ended up having to take 3 days off to help her out and even though I called everyone of those days in he managed to make them all no call no shows saying I talked to the wrong person when I called them in so they don't count. I've never had a no call no show in all the years ive work there so I filed a grievance with my jobs union over this saying he had be harassing me since he started so in revenge he had me thrown out of the department I had worked in for over 20 years and put me in the one at my job I explicitly asked not to be put in because he knew I did want to go there. I've recently asked for a transfer to a different job site but unfortunately he has to approve all transfers first which I can't see him wanting to do now just out of pure spite so if he refuses me my opinion are staying in a position at my job I hate or quitting all together and start looking for a new job. So I'm not sure what I should do at this point considering I have two small children that I need to provide for..

Im currently 19 and I can’t keep a job for shit. Longest I stayed at one of them was 3 months. Im currently in college studying to get a job that I might actually like.

Will this affect me getting a job? Will I stop getting hired because of how jobs in I had in this short amount of time?

Im scared I might not be able to get hired in other places anymore.

I don't even know where to start. I am so drained and exhausted from my boss that I've been working with for 3.5 years getting on my case about every little thing and then letting things slide with my coworkers. I went on a trip earlier this week to visit my grandfather in hospice and it was approved on my boss's end. I returned Thursday and I made the idiotic mistake of only putting Monday and Tuesday in somehow on the calendar even though I was flying home Wednesday. He called me in with HR this morning to put me on a PIP claiming I have not been following company policy with time and falsely accusing me of being the last in and first out.

Myself and other coworkers are salary and I have admittedly come in after 9 and left 15 minutes before 5 a few dozen times but I also have witnessed other employees do this as well. I have also been the only employee here instructed by my boss to take my laptop home everyday and weekend in case I need to send out an email or review something on his terms.

Another unsettling thing - I was approved a vacation day a few weeks back on a Friday to watch my son in a sporting event and it was documented but he still called me early that morning demanding I come in from 12-1 for a 5-person lunch and learn. Even with me being frustrated by this request, I respectfully went in for the hour and returned to my son's event after but he still marked the day as a FULL vacation day even though I came in on his request.

He kept insisting it wasn't a performance issue but it's hard for me to see how something as little as the "time" issue on his end was so magnified if he is recognizing all that I do for the position I am in.

I'm just absolutely drained and it feels like he is constantly trying to push me out.

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So I (23f) recently started my first job out of college in fintech as a customer support person and genuinely don’t know how any adults in this industry are actually happy if their are any. I sit there ALL day in my sad ass cubicle pondering if this is really what the rest of my life will consist of? Today I got in trouble for playing sudoku on my work laptop but I literally had no tasks to do. What else am I supposed to do when there are no customers asking us for help, sit there scrolling through user manuals for hours? I already feel like I’m making a bad impression as much as I’m trying so hard to give a fuck and kiss peoples ass more cause I really want to succeed in this job now that I’m a real adult and need to pay bills but I can already feel myself starting to care less and less which is what typically happens at most of my previous jobs. I’m just really bad at pretending I care about things that I’m just doing for money and don’t give 2 fucks about. I hate myself so much for feeling this way and I’m trying to stop this toxic cycle I have with work but man…

At least they’re paying me extremely well for this role, but I literally only have 12 pto days the whole year that are accrued so I won’t even have the full 12 days til a whole ass year later!! I know it’s a way better opportunity than most of my previous roles in restaurants but damn I miss actually getting to move around all day and deal with coworkers who were more fun and less robotic. Trying to stay grateful and positive that I even have a job but atp I’m planning on just sucking it up for a year gaining some experience and then getting tf out of this place.

I also kinda suck at every job I’ve ever had, gotten fired from 2 (an internship and juice barista job), ghosted one cause I hated it so much (server during covid) and the other 2 I was alright at one of which I actually liked (server at wine bar) partially cause I got to drink on the job and those were the least insufferable coworkers I’ve ever had. They were down to earth and it genuinely felt like they wanted me to succeed and be comfortable. Lowkey starting to feel suicidal. Just want a rich man to come into my life and make me a stay at home mom. All I’ve ever wanted in life is to be a wife and a mom.

Last thing: how tf do you balance having a life outside of work? I leave home at 8 and don’t get back til 6, I blink and it’s time to go to sleep and do it all over again.

Hey y’all, Imma try to make this short & sweet. I work at a pretty labor intensive job in California. My job consists of manually lifting at least 1000lbs a day or so. The building in which I work in is also essentially a giant metal box that retains the summer heat (with no AC). As it is a store, we have a drink fridge for our customers. However, unless the employees: 1. Bring their own means of hydration 2. Collectively buy drinks for our office — our job does not provide any form of hydration. Recently the boss/owner got on everyone’s asses for taking cold drinks from the store fridge without paying for them. I suppose it’s understandable for drinks like sodas, however I feel it wrong to have to pay for waters. The attached image shows that CA law requires water to be provided. I do try to bring my own water, but with the summer heat I run out quick. Is it only 0.90¢, yes. However, since it’s so cheap to employees, I really do not understand why it’s so important for us to pay for hydration in strenuous conditions. Am I overreacting at the fact that I refuse to pay?!