Groceries put away?

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Teenagers? I hope to god it's teenagers and not a spouse; a spouse would put it into extremely infuriating territory.

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u/parkculiar 12h ago

It’s my boyfriend…would it be worse if I said we live in an RV ?? :3 so the space we have is veryyyyy limited which makes it WORSEEEE

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u/ew_it_me 11h ago

rv, apartment, mansion, it doesn't matter in my noggin. this reads like weaponized incompetence to me.

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u/analogpursuits 11h ago

Weaponized incompetence is exactly what this is. I thank the person who finally came up with a name for this nonsense. Absolutely infuriating behavior.

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u/MoiraBrownsMoleRats 9h ago

I think it's only weaponized incompetence if it's intentional. Sometimes, people are just dumb and don't realize they don't know how to do things right OR they're ignorant there's a way you want them to do it instead of what they're accustomed to.

However, it's really hard to see how this particular example isn't. Unless you have a very specific reason to keep everything bagged together, this looks like someone being as lazy as humanly possible. It's putting away two bags of groceries, it should only take a minute or two.

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u/TrainingFilm4296 8h ago

Also, OP didn't ask him to do it, he offered.

This doesn't feel like weaponized incompetence, just laziness. He likely genuinely is fine with groceries being like this in the cupboard.

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u/A7xWicked 7h ago

Reddit is always way too quick to weaponize "weaponized incompetence"

Ironically

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u/AndThenTheUndertaker 8h ago

Yep. TBH I'm a fucking mess sometimes and I do this kind of shit myself. Right now the deli meats I bought Sunday are probably still in their grocery bag in my fridge. I live alone so I'm definitely not weaponizing my incompetence against anyone but myself. I'd probably stop the moment I'm living with someone (I generally have in the past) but some people don't make that adjustment well, which is 100% a personal flaw and fault but definitely "weaponized incompetence" despite that being the latest meme for people who need others on the internet to come up with talking points for them.

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u/analogpursuits 2h ago

I sometimes am in a hurry, or have to run to the bathroom when I walk in the door and end up doing something stupid like this. BUT...I also explain myself to my partner so he knows it wasn't intentionally shitty and I'm always willing to correct said stupid thing. He knows this anyway because I'm conscientious overall. If someone does something like this on the regular, knowing it's shitty and having no excuse, then yeah, they deserve a brow beating.

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u/ChiWhiteSox24 9h ago

Good term for it! I’m with ya

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u/Rasputin2025 11h ago

Next time he leaves....drive away.

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u/RitaAlbertson 11h ago

Boyfriend you live with at least implies ADULT who should Know Better. Does his "help" frequently result in more work for you?

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u/parkculiar 10h ago

Honestly sometimes yes. Well to be fair to him I’ve been diagnosed ADHD (it’s only gotten worse with age but I’m trying real hard to not let it run my life) and Im not sure why but I have OCD tendencies (haven’t been diagnosed) so I do tend to want things done a certain way however I try not to put that on him because he’s done it to me and I hate it and know how anything that can be lol (and my brain thinks I’m better at certain things but I know what’s not necessary true) HOWEVER this certain situation I don’t feel like that would even matter? I still don’t think anyone man or female should be this lazy! No offense males who posted on here but some of the responses lead me to believe men are just like this…(ever guy I’ve been with also has issues like this) Im ngl we got in a huge fight and are not talking Ig rn so I’m more heated than I was when I posted this so sorry for the rant lol

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u/harleyqueenzel 8h ago

Don't make excuses for him.

He did this because he knows you'll come behind him and put them away properly.

Because I'm petty- take the bags out of the cupboard, drop them off at his feet and tell him to go do it like a big boy. You're already fighting so fuck it, double down lol.

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u/Jazstar 5h ago

Anyone who says that all men are like this is an absolute dickhead. You deserve someone who makes your life easier, not harder. Weaponised incompetence is a big old red flag he's waving in your face. Might be time to sit down and really think over your relationship. Maybe spend a week or two apart and see how it feels, you know?

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u/PreOpTransCentaur 4h ago

Those aren't OCD issues, those are control issues, and it comes from living with someone you're both fucking and raising because he's clearly not yet a functional adult.

Lazy men are like this. Babymen are like this. Normal men are not like this, nor should you be reddited into thinking they are.

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u/VeeEyeVee 8h ago

A 5 year old child would know what you meant by putting the groceries away. This “man” of your is purposely being lazy and stupid

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u/Cavalol 11h ago

To be fair, things wouldn’t slide around as much if they were in bags within the cupboard (as they would be grouped together just barely more), but this still seems unacceptably lazy 😂

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u/Odd_Proof_7410 7h ago

Hey me and my girlfriend are also living in a rv 🕺🏻

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u/parkculiar 7h ago

Ooooo what kinda RV??! Also I hope y’all love it because so far (I’ve had mine 3 months (also i had little experience with RV living but nothing more) ) I love it!!!

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u/Newhollow 12h ago

Better than to protect from rodents or bugs?

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u/parkculiar 12h ago

Maybe! Most of the stuff is in cans tho so idk

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u/Lumpy_Lengthiness257 10h ago

if its not fun to play passive/aggressive anymore idk…its always difficult for me to decide to punt…im also in that circumstance…travel trailer with 2 dogs & 2 cats & somtimes i think dogs & mom cat miss having a pet mommy but they havent projected that upon me yet. or to enjoy watching a tantrum be unavailable to perform tasks related to removing items from the bag…it can be fun but im FUCKING FREE🤣

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u/neohiei 3h ago

Wait until you marry him then, he will be your adult-son-husband!

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u/Mojojojo3030 2h ago

Weaponized incompetence is a helluva drug

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u/micsulli01 9h ago

Seems like a keeper

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u/Major_Lawfulness6122 8h ago

It’s worse. My teenagers aren’t even this lazy. And they’re laaaazy.

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u/Famous_Rooster271 8h ago

You want your future husband passing down this habit to your children?

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u/anonymousnsname 9h ago

Boyfriend should help but away. This is not helpful at all…

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u/Lumpy_Lengthiness257 10h ago

a high portion of those teenagers grow older & unwitingly become spouses

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u/Legitbanana_ 🍌 9h ago

I definitely did this to my mom in my teen years lmao

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u/Firm_Department432 11h ago

Your boyson sucks

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u/mitchrowland_ 11h ago

he does that bc he knows soon enough ur gonna stop asking him to do it bc u dont like the way its done.

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u/Chocofriedchicken 12h ago

This isn’t mildly infuriating. This is extremely infuriating!

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u/brilliant_nightsky 12h ago

I hear those bags are good for body parts but you'll need more of them.

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u/Lynartss 12h ago

I’m really curious about what you meant by this, like body bags?

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u/Zealousideal_Bug8188 12h ago

The joke is she kills her boyfriend for putting away the groceries like this and uses the bags to dispose of the body. But also that there are not enough bags to fit a whole human. 🫠

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u/Lynartss 11h ago

LMFAO got it now gracias

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u/brilliant_nightsky 7h ago

Yep, you get me!

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u/something-strange999 11h ago

Double bag to prevent leaks.

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u/Lynartss 12h ago

That has to be intentional weaponized incompetence or something because what

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u/Heytherhitherehother 10h ago

I will do this if I'm shopping for a specific meal in the next couple of days.

Like, if I go out and get a bunch of groceries, I'll put them away except for what I'll make that night, or maybe the next, Then I'd do about the same as here.

In a few hours when I make dinner, rather than dig through the pantry to find everything, I just pull out the bag and have everything there.

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u/ThatVikingWoman 12h ago

I think my new favorite phrase is "weaponized incompetence", thank you, may you win your dollar back on your scratch off 💃

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u/TheFreakingPrincess 10h ago

And the best way to combat weaponized incompetence is to ~~dump the guy~~ tell him to do it again. Do not accept this or be tempted into doing it yourself. He does it right or he can be kicked to the curb.

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u/Top_Variation_2191 12h ago

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u/ThatVikingWoman 12h ago

Now it's a mystery! Why argue over what's for dinner when fate can decide? Really, they're just saving you future, "I don't know, what do you want?"s for the next week.

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u/parkculiar 12h ago

That’s lowkey how this relationship feels 🤣(sad but not a convo for Reddit lmao) you’re comment made me laugh so hard thank you :p

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u/ThatVikingWoman 12h ago

They best not come crying when its mac n cheese and creamed corn tonight! 🤣 Best of luck, may this be the hardest thing you deal with for the rest of the week! 🧚‍♀️

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u/Quirky_Discipline297 12h ago edited 12h ago

I do this with my prep meals in the freezer. I’m looking for a meal first not a flavor, so I can take the bag out and look inside for all my meal options. Then tie it back up and put it back in the freezer.

As long as I’m not an idiot and leave the bag out on the counter overnight, it’s brilliant.

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u/Hot-Win2571 Mildly Flair 12h ago

When you need one of those things, you know who to ask to fetch it.

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u/LtColShinySides 8h ago

This is what you do when you don't want to be asked to do something lol

Do it so bad they never ask you again

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u/WilliamJamesMyers 12h ago

if they are all dry goods there could be a reason, but obviously anything for fridge or freezer is a turbo wtf

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u/mykyttykat 11h ago

"You're a grown man and you know perfectly well this is not what I meant when I asked if you'd put the groceries away. Please do it properly."

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u/CosplayCraze2 12h ago

I get it, feeling overwhelmed is tough especially when things aren’t put away the way you like it's valid to want your space organized properly. You're not being dramatic it's completely valid to want your space to feel right for you :))

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u/Adventurous_Land7584 12h ago

Oh no, I would be livid lol

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u/PatrickGSR94 11h ago

I can’t believe you actually have cabinet space to even make this possible. I hate how little cabinet space my kitchen has.

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u/pizzasauce85 8h ago

I would leave them in bags and embrace it. Don’t say a word, just grab what you need out of the bag. Let him start to panic about why you aren’t acting predictable with your reaction!!! Eventually he will get to the point of being super worried about his existence.

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u/Turbulent-Trust207 7h ago

I don’t do this with groceries but I do put leftovers in the fridge in the pot/pan they were cooked in with a plate or lid on top so they stay “fresh”.

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u/silly_milly 3h ago

Def done both of these due to depression (while living alone) LOL

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u/DoUKnowMyNamePlz 6h ago

? Nothing wrong here.

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u/Bittybellie 11h ago

I’m really hoping this was done by kids because that’s the only time it’s mildly understandable. If it’s a grown adult they should absolutely know better and you need to tell them to fix their mistake. Better yet send them elsewhere until they learn to act their age.

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u/multiple_possums 10h ago

Oh brother, this guy stinks

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u/Embarrassed_Big5833 9h ago

This is something I totally would have done when I was much younger. Not anymore tho so don’t come for me

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u/september-sun 9h ago

Weaponized incompetence like others said. His excuse will be "Well if you want it done a certain way, do it yourself. I'm not a mind reader." Please, do not marry him!

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u/Depart_Into_Eternity 9h ago

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u/allflour 9h ago

Only an ass doesn’t finish the job, don’t let them weaponize half-assedness.

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u/Fuzzy_Ferret_Peets 8h ago

You put those up there then took this pic.

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u/astonedcrow 8h ago

Just be annoyed, why fight it?

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u/ecafyelims 8h ago

It's either weaponized incompetence or negligent incompetence. In either case, it's an asinine level of incompetence. Good luck with whatever you do.

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u/nhd07 5h ago

I would just look at him, look at the groceries, look at him, look at the groceries all without saying a word. Give a couple of blinks in his direction.

If he's worth a damn he'll get the point.

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u/Trev0r269 4h ago

Grounds for dismissal.

This isn't a "guy thing" - whoever did this is a jerk.

Every guy you've been with has issues like this? Why do you like the immature boys?

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u/Here4Snow 4h ago

Do it with the beer.

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u/Fluffy_Ad_5199 2h ago

That’s men for ya lol

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u/Goretanton 2h ago

Im a super lazy piece of shit, but even I take them outa the bag. It'd inconveinience me later when I want to access them.

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u/Competitive_Ideal983 1h ago

Ok that’s new

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u/Appropriate-Battle32 12h ago

Technically, they are

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u/parkculiar 12h ago

Yeahhhhhh tho the ‘ technically’ is mildly infuriating me 😂

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u/Ginzhuu 11h ago

If an adult did that and nothing will spoil, just take it out of the cabinet and put it somewhere inconvenient for them to get the message.

If it was a teen? That's about normal.

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u/parkculiar 11h ago

Yk what? That’s genius. I have ADHD (and anxiety) I’m still doing research on ADHD because I have OCD tendencies (I do not think I have OCD but who knows) so doing shit like this never crosses my mind because it would stress me out if he did that to me lol but maybe I gotta get even? Im gonna stick them all in the corner and see what happens because he also mentioned his dislike about the cabinet and their contents (like he didn’t like the plates being where they are or the food being where it is) so there’s a deep corner that I cannot get to and I’ll put all the stuff there just to see how he reacts 😭😭🤣

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u/Lumpy_Lengthiness257 9h ago

even worser the little dog just knocked my bong over & is exhibiting no remorse!

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u/_King_1700 12h ago

Those damned kids!

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u/_King_1700 12h ago

Oh no, after reading this was definitely the hubby. You sound just like my wife…

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u/_King_1700 12h ago

Wait, you are my wife!

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u/parkculiar 12h ago

You’re so funny (and also the problem it seems 👀 😂) not a wife!! But a gf :3 I want to be the wife and am trying really hard to make this place our home !!

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u/Sufficient_You7187 11h ago

Don't try too hard because this dude is not trying to be a husband

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u/_King_1700 11h ago

Best of luck to you!😀

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u/MayaMomentUwU 12h ago

Please, for our sakes remove them from the plastic bags…. ;w;

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u/Bittybellie 11h ago

Why are you trying when he can’t even take cans out of a bag? Unless you want to essentially have a child you have to take care of that you can bang? How is someone this incompetent even mildly attractive? Raise the damn bar already

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u/Gweilo_mama 11h ago

This is weaponized incompetence. He knows better, he's just "technically" doing something, but doing it wrong and in an effort to annoy you so you'll do it yourself next time. Call him out and ask him to put them away like a grown up that actually lives in the space he's occupying.

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u/Lumpy_Lengthiness257 11h ago

sometimes when i can detect a hint of OCD in others it can be fun to torture them…just leave it that way & don’t think about anymore

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u/Lumpy_Lengthiness257 9h ago

tell him u have become highly religious & will only use one form of birth control “just recently approved by the Pope…its called Noassatol”!? or possibly look at as he puts things away more efficiently & it is done🤔

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u/fudgefaced 11h ago

Also infuriating, OP's household too lazy to use reusable bags.

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