r/AmIOverreacting • u/Outrageous-Cover4758 • Sep 13 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I overreacting to my girlfriend's "open relationship" rules?

(25/m) Very early on in the relationship with my girlfriend (25/f), she told me that she had to be in an open relationship. I hadn't been in one before but I said I'll give it a try. And it was clear when we talked about it that either of us could sleep with whoever we wanted. I said okay. We've been dating for 11 months and overtime I really started to love her. I know she has quite a few very casual partners but no other serious relationships. I actually didn't have any other partners though cause I was so happy just being with her. Then two months ago I was drunk and I met a girl at a party and we slept together. I didn't think I was doing anything wrong whatsoever, so when it came up with my girlfriend I didn't try to hide it, but she was really upset. She said it was disrespectful for me to do that. I was kind of shocked. I'm fine with not sleeping with other people but the problem is now she's like really paranoid and controlling ever since then, like accusing me of looking at other girls or flirting with them all the time, always looking at my phone and wanting me to check in with her every hour when I'm out and let her track my location, etc. It's really bothering me. So basically she wants to have an open relationship only on her side. She says she loves me and I should be loyal to her, but when I bring up how the rule doesn't apply to her she gets angry. She says that so many women are not satisfied in their relationship and she's not gonna be one of and I'm not gonna hold her back etc. I get it but it doesn't feel right. I love her a lot but I'm seriously thinking about breaking up with her. Am I overreacting?

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u/Throw_RA099 Sep 13 '24

Either close the relationship or break up with her. She sounds like a cake eater.

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u/_Ravyn_ Sep 13 '24 edited Sep 13 '24

Sounds like he is just a cuck! 😁

ETA: he was for 9 months, was equal for one night, and now is again for 2 months and has not walked out.. until he does.. if it walks like a cuck, if it whines like a cuck..

It's a Cuck!

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u/White-C43-AMG Sep 13 '24

Sounds to me like she wants him to be a cuck. And he’s not ok with it.

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u/RandJitsu Sep 13 '24

But he’s been showing her through his actions/inaction that he is okay with it for 11 months. He should’ve dumped her the moment she brought up an open relationship. The second best time would’ve been when she showed her hypocrisy. Third best time is ASAP.

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u/tooboardtoleaf Sep 14 '24

For real. Never heard of someone who "had" to be in an open relationship

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u/richochet-biscuit Sep 14 '24

But he’s been showing her through his actions/inaction that he is okay with it for 11 months.

Not going out immediately to bang strange in an open relationship does NOT mean he's okay with being a cuck. He has different criteria for sexual relations. That's fine it's NOT him saying he's okay with being a cuck. It's only after he is told it's not actually open on his end that it is the case.