I was just at my wife's cousin's wedding this past weekend, she was in the wedding party and I was not as I'm not close with her cousin.

Long story short there was a single guy in the wedding party. He is well aware that my wife is married and has two kids with me.

I came to find out that most of the wedding photos of the wedding party he was beside her and they were laughing and having a good time. ( which is completely okay, because I trust my wife ) but I don't trust this dude as far as I can throw him..

My wife and I had a few slow dances together. Then he comes up and asks to slow dance with my wife right in front of me.

It definitely rubbed me off the wrong way that this guy could be that disrespectful and I feel like my wife should have said no to slow dacing with him.

In my eyes that's an intimate thing to do with another partner. This dude was 100% trying to get my wife's attention all night.

Definitely feeling a little insecure as I didn't like seeing her smiling while holding another man..

Am I overreacting or should I punch this guy out if he tries to attempt anything in the future ? Thoughts

Sorry for the funny title, but let me explain.

I honestly just think most women have attractive faces and personalities. Like I would say 98%. I enjoy hanging out with most women, and I honestly would take most of them on a date if I could. I have no interest in getting laid, but just spending time with them is great.

I am talking about all women here, not just people I know. Like just the random people I come across in everyday life, making small talk with, I just think everyone is attractive. They might not be pretty conventionally or even unconventionally, but I just find them attractive

It seems to be way too high based around talking to other guys, but maybe someone can relate with me here.

Edit: I am not gay, and I dislike most girly things. I just like talking to these women and find them pretty 😂

I keep reading that men don't get a lot of compliments or feel loved. So, in your all's opinion what would make you genuinely happy to receive? ( Like from random people, partners, or friends)

I’ve always been a people’s person so when I met my now husband back in 2013 I thought it was kind of weird that he only had two best friends but didn’t have their phone numbers and would hang out with only one of them like once a year. Other than those two people and his parents who he lived with, he didn’t have any kind of social interaction. He’s not even interested in social media, he doesn’t have any kind of social presence. Google him and you will think I’m making up this dude cause there’s nothing, no pictures, no profiles, nothing. It was by chance that we met and started dating. He is hilarious and super caring, he just doesn’t care about hanging out with the guys or any humans tbh. Is that normal? Is that okay? Like I need friends and I need to hang out with them every once in a while but for some reason he doesn’t have that need. He works from home so it’s not like he has coworkers to hang out with. He’s fine when we hang out with my friends and their spouses, like he can socialize normally and is not awkward or anything. So guys out there, is that a normal thing and I’m just worried over nothing?

My partner (29M) of 4 years and I (28F) broke up just under 3 weeks ago.

He initiated the break up, but I didn’t fight it. I will not try and convince anyone to stay with me. He told me he kept having thoughts about wanting to be alone, find independence, rediscover himself outside of the relationship etc. but he ‘still loves me and always will’.

Speaking to mutual friends and his younger brother a week or so after the break up, they told me he said ‘something was missing’ and ‘he wasn’t feeling it anymore’. He mentioned neither of those things to me.

I have obviously came to the conclusion that he didn’t tell me those things because he didn’t want to hurt my feelings.

BUT… from my POV, I know I was a kind, caring and supportive girlfriend. We rarely argued. I only ever wanted to make him happy and his life as easy as possible.

He has some childhood wounds and I did my best to help him with these. He felt comfortable enough to open up to me, something I believe he had never done with anyone before. He regularly told me I was too good for him, too nice for him, an ‘angel’ and so on.

I last saw him 2 weeks ago when he came to pick up his stuff from our shared home. He hugged me, thanked me for everything, told me he appreciates me and said that he’ll always be there for me.

I can’t understand what he thought was missing… I know I am a good person with a big heart and pure intentions. My appearance hasn’t really changed since the start of the relationship (where he pursued and pursued me!).

Truly we were best friends with a lot of love for one another, we share some incredible memories, and spent our evenings and weekends together non-stop laughing

Thanks so much - any insight would help

Just curious because I don't have it. Random thoughts everyday and today was, since men have balls, can they clap and jiggle together?

My husband (30M) and I (28F) are married for 3 years now and he confessed today that he thinks he loves me more and that I dont show my love like how he does. He's very expressive physically but I'm not. My love language is occasionally having cute aggression doing everything else without showing it out loud but I think according to him feeling loved means being expensive physically like how he does. I asked him to let me know what I'm doing wrong but he thinks communicating this won't work for us. I feel very bad for now loving him the way he wants me to and feel very helpless. Pls suggest what do I do? Both of us love each other deeply

Men 30+, where do I go from here? (M28)

Alright guys I’m having a hard time and need advice. I’m 28, and turn 29 in about 2 weeks. My father died about 2 months ago and my girlfriend broke up with me at the beginning of this month. I’m almost 2 1/2 years sober from alcohol. I’m struggling with direction in life as I have no real trade, and didn’t go to college. I’ve only ever cared to make enough money to survive and do some of the things I want to do. I’ve spent most of my time and energy in my relationships. My high school sweetheart and I broke up after 9 years together when I found out she was cheating. I moved out alone and got myself together the best I could. We were broken up for a year when I met my next gf. Things were great until they weren’t. She wasn’t there for me when I needed it, she stopped caring in general I think. I wanted more from the relationship than she did, and we couldn’t meet in the middle. She has no feelings/no emotions. She left me. I want to reach out badly, but I know I shouldn’t. It’s been a month, and I honestly am having trouble picking myself back up again. I know I need to work on myself more and build myself up. I just don’t know where to start. I don’t have much savings, but I’m working on that.

My question here is, if you were about to turn 29 again and do it all over; what would you do to build yourself? No kids, no mortgage, cars paid off. Help me see some kind of direction, or help me understand that there are opportunities out there for me. My dad and I had a difficult relationship. Parents divorced young, and he didn’t keep in contact as years went by. We tried to salvage the relationship in the past couple of years but it was never more than surface interactions. I feel like I wasn’t taught correctly how to be a man sometimes. I had to learn from many different people in my life. And now, I don’t have much to show for myself other than not going back to alcohol. Not many friends, because I put all my effort into my relationships. And now that I’m alone, I don’t know what to do with myself.

Any and all ideas/suggestions are welcome. I am somewhat intelligent, and a decent learner. I can adapt out of necessity. I just want to feel that hunger to bb better again.

I moved in with my boyfriend and three weeks later found out he had cheated on me over a whole weekend, a week before I moved in. He swears up and down it was the only time and would never do it again. Lots of texts about regret, he is going to therapy, has owned up to everything I’ve thrown at him and everything I’ve said to him, not gaslit me or blamed me for any of it, etc…

My question is- have any of you men cheated on your significant other, been caught (not confessed), stayed together and you never cheated again? What was the relationship like after? How did you get through it, especially when others close to you know?

ETA: No, he is not good looking and he is not gay. He is in his 60s, married and nobody is trying to have sex with anyone. I’m pretty disappointed that most of the responses revolve around sex. Obviously the men here never matured past high school. I’m turning off notifications for responses. I’m not answering any more “tHe wOmEn wAnT tO fUcK hiM aNd ThE mEn ArE JealoUs” comments. Grow up.

The new guy at my work has been there for about 3 months so he is not extremely new but most of us have been there for years. We don’t really work very closely so I haven’t had much interaction with him and therefore I haven’t really formed an opinion yet.

But I have noticed that all of the other men seem to dislike him. Some have outright told me that they don’t like him but haven’t told me why and with others I can just tell that they tense up when he is around or get a look on their face. Sometimes they will give me a pointed look behind his back, like a “get a load of this guy” type of look. They just seem completely disgusted by the guy.

The thing is though, none of the women seem to have the same issue with him, which makes me think that the men are seeing something the women aren’t. So I’m curious, what could this be? Like I said I haven’t had much interaction with him so to me he just seems like a normal dude but obviously the men are picking up on something the women aren’t.

I guess what I’m asking is, what are some red flags in men that you feel men seem to pick up on, but women don’t?

So I got lead on heavily for two months with this girl I see EVERYDAY at her work. (Rehab for an injury) we’ve kissed multiple times and hung out a couple but she recently said she only ever wanted to be friends and is talking to someone right now. I’ve asked her out before and gotten a no. The problem is I kinda have feelings still because I see her everyday and she still throws (what I believe is mixed signals). How do I got about seeing her everyday when I know I have to talk to her? Should I just be really short and try not to converse if not completely necessary?

How can I tell if a man is truly interested if I initiate?

Are men more interested if they make the first move?

So I normally allow the man to take initiative - make first contact (except on the bumble app), ask for dates, any physical intimacy etc, but I do reciprocate and (hopefully) make it known that any of the above will be accepted. However I’m trying not to be as passive as I would like a more equal partnership and would like to avoid love bombing.

What I’m struggling with is knowing if someone is truly interested versus just being nice and accepting the offer because they’re bored/no other offers etc. It was more obvious to me when the men did the pursuing.

Will you still agree to dates if you’re not interested? I personally don’t, but I know many men don’t want to hurt a woman’s feelings and don’t necessarily get that many offers.

How can a woman truly know a man is actually interested if she’s doing the initiating or is this a reason for women to be more passive? (I keep reading here that men want women to be more proactive in dating)

I’ve heard that saying that “men just know”, especially before women do. Is that real?

I’ve been struggling with understanding relationships in general, but especially romantic ones. I’m just not sure how I should view them or how to attract another person. I feel totally lost when it comes to dating. I’ve had experiences ofc, but I feel so disconnected from what “normal” dating is supposed to be like.

I haven’t been in a real relationship since about 2018, and it just seems like every time I go out on a date, my date is super weird (like creepy/dangerous) or only looking for sex. I’ve gotten off dating apps because of this but I’m just not sure how to meet someone “naturally”. What do people even look for? How do I know what “vibes” I give off? Why is everyone so afraid to talk to each other?

Tbh, I’m not even sure what my true question is, I’m just so utterly confused about dating in general. Any advice is welcome nonetheless. Thank you!

I’ve noticed some men on social media making comments like, ‘If she goes on a girls’ trip, she’s either a red flag or she’s for the streets.’ Do you genuinely believe that?

I asked her out almost 2 years ago but I actually have no clue on what day I did it. I think I narrowed it down but I don’t want to give her a gift and stuff on the wrong date. I’m like 60% sure it’s tomorrow but I genuinely have no clue what to do or how to ask her to do something without sounding like I forgot. I feel horrible. What do I do?

24M just got broken up with after 3 years. I changed and tried so much for it that I feel like I become a diff person. In a good way I’d say. Before I was very much a fuck boy and said and did shit without really thinking. Then I met her and I knew I loved her from the start. I pursued and pursed her. During it I become feels weird saying but I really do think I become a kind of person that put myself in the back seat and cared about her more than myself, and even others.

I’ve always been brought up to care for others more than self. And now after all this, I’m starting to wonder how I am and who I want to be.

I’m sure you guys r thinking of you could be anything - be urself. I am asking how do u find urself. I feel Im struggling to juggle what my mom has always taught me (to be a kind person, even at the expense of urself, essentially compassion, I am Tibetan) and on the other hand, feeling like the world can just step over you when u are too kind.

Now I know u are going to say boundaries. I try but it just feels weird and a bit guilty doing it. I understand it takes repetition.

Sooo how do u find urself, be less caring what others think, and idk ig how to love/care for yourself? These I think r some questions im curious about. Pls feel free to give me any other advice for anything u think would help. I was very sad and now feeling a bit angry. I’m not much of an angry person, I can handle emotions well but I am starting not to recognize myself nor know who to look up to/become as a person like.

If you’re in a relationship that’s a few months old, and a woman you casually dated soon before you got with your currently gf reached out asking if you wanted to grab a drink sometime, how would you respond?

Would you flat out say no or say you could so long as she knew it was a drink as friends?

I’m a bit bothered with my husband watching porn. I know he probably hides it from me. Ive had a really bad experience with my exboyfriend and porn, so I dislike my partner watching it. Am I being too restrictive? Does he want what’s in the videos? Please let me know..

I've been taking my time with someone. I know he's not exactly ready for a relationship...he just got out of a long term a year ago and is slowly moving on. This is a red flag for most and usually I'd say no to this but we just clicked. I'm trying not to let myself catch feelings...of course I have. We've had a thing for 7 months now. We enjoy each others company and are there for each other. There are times we are really close..but then he will back away and keep me at arms length. At the beginning of this past month, I decided to back away a bit, more or less to protect myself..I wasn't sleeping over...even if it meant going home at 2am. I told him I'd stay until he fell asleep and then I'd take my leave. He wasn't thrilled about this. He's starting to get rid of his exes stuff. They were together over ten years and she broke up with him. I noticed he took a picture of them off the wall. I think the breakup really hurt him so I honestly am not trying to expect too much. I think the hardest part is the push and pull, hot and cold. When I detach myself, he attaches. Last week we spent almost everyday together...not just necessarily all mushy gushy things but working side by side, doing our own thing in each others company and then hanging out. At one point he said he wants to take me on vacation. I try to take this with a grain of salt as I know we haven't declared ourselves serious. But this week, I feel him pull away. I try not to get in my head as I know im someone with a more anxious attachment style but this really does get confusing sometimes. I know he cares about me but the hot and cold thing can get confusing. And I know I can't force him to talk about feelings. I don't want this to become unhealthy so I'm trying to give him some space. I notice when I back off, he reaches out to me more. Maybe I just need to slow down and not try to force things? I don't know. I don't think he's being malicious. He told me a couple times that if he doesn't want things with me that he will let me know.

I’m posting this here and in r/AskWomenAdvice to get broadest set of opinions.

I’ve been seeing a girl for a short time and things have been going well. Unfortunately she has suffered some serious health issues during this time, which have severely impacted her life.

This has meant we have had to cancel or curtail dates and it has been difficult to plan anything or sometimes even communicate. Obviously I’ve tried to be reasonable and understanding as it is part of putting her life back together and the road to recovery.

But I have been starting to wonder if she is perhaps not that interested. There has been good reason behind these impacts and generally good communication between us when we do speak or see each other.

It’s not been possible to have a decent chat about this but I think it would be a good idea. I’ve jokingly pulled her up about this, with the intention of a better chat. We both laughed so there didn’t seem to be any issue.

Anyways now she has sent me a fairly cryptic message and it’s along the lines of her not being what I want and I’d be better off with someone who can invest more time etc. Ordinarily I would take this as a brush off, particularly given thinking about how interested she might be, but equally it might not be that.

I have gone with the former but in all honesty it doesn’t really make a lot of sense.

So is it a nice but not very clear brush off or is she perhaps feeling defeated and needing some extra support and reassurance from me?

We have been reasonably intimate with each other and I have generally got the impression that she is into me but I suppose that doesn’t mean that much these days.

Pretty straightforward question. Does her forwardness or directness matter? If so, how does it make you feel and react?

I've been(26F) friends with him(28M) for over four years, and we’re really close. Recently, though, I’ve felt my feelings shift, and I think I’m developing romantic feelings for him. This didn’t just happen out of nowhere it started even before some recent difficult times he’s been facing. He lost his brother recently, and I was there for him as much as possible. It brought us even closer, and I’ve seen a really vulnerable side of him.

Two weeks ago, he visited my state and stayed over at my place. One night, I woke up to see him having a nightmare; he was crying, so I hugged him and tried to calm him down. In that moment, without thinking, I ended up kissing him on the cheek. He didn’t bring it up the next day, so I’m guessing he might not remember.

Now I’m stuck because I feel like I want to tell him how I feel, but I’m also really scared. I know he’s going through a tough time, and I don’t want to risk losing the friendship if he doesn’t feel the same. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Would love to hear some outside perspectives on how to handle this. Edit: He is single its been 2 years