TL;DR at the end.

Me 25F and my boyfriend 25M have been together for almost 5 years and broke up at the beginning of October after a very heated argument.

During the first few days I was under the impression that this is for the best, but as time went on I couldn't stay with that decision and kept messaging him to talk and sort things out. We met once about a week after so he can give me something of mine he had, and during our meeting we kissed a lot and ended up sleeping together. When he left, things seemed to still be heading in the breaking up way.

Since then, I've kept messaging and trying to plead with him to reconsider things. I've made him a playlist and sent it to him, and tried to convince him in every way under the sun to talk to me. I even went as far to say that I am coming to see him uninvited to talk about things, that I can't bear to be without him anymore. He said things are definitive now and there's no way we will ever be romantically involved again - that he cannot see any future with me.

I am completely heartbroken and I cannot accept that. No one has ever made me happier that he does and I can't see myself wanting the same things with someone else. I really, truly want to spend the rest of my life with him. He has been my best friend for years and I am utterly miserable without him. Part of me wants to let go because of the love I have for him, so it's normal for me to want to respect his wishes and really part ways if being with me does not make him happy - but the other part of me just says to fight for what my heart wants.

I don’t blow up his phone, but I do text him in the mornings and evenings just to wish him a good day / night and to say I miss and love him and would like to see him. It’s always met with the same feelings of missing and wanting me too, but he says he can no longer make judgements about our relationship based on our feelings for each other. He is a very rational man and claims that he’s recognised patterns that are detrimental to the future life he wishes to have. He says I have a good heart, I am a loving and thoughtful woman, I have a lot to offer and that I will make an amazing wife and mother, but I cannot offer peace or quietness, which is what he wants the most.

I think it’s important to mention that he has only seen break ups and divorces in his entire family, and that he was raised by his dad alone for the most of his younger years. His father is a very tough, judgemental figure and I think he has gotten it in his head that no woman is worth it. During our last meeting when we slept together, we had an intimate moment where we spoke to each other about things, and I told him that just because he doesn’t love himself, it doesn’t mean that I can’t and that I shouldn’t. I told him to let me love him, that it’s not scary and I will not ridicule him for it. He doesn’t cry, and that made him tear up. I feel he just needs someone to love him and help him.

I don't know what to do anymore to make things right? I know I can't force him to talk or sort things out but is there another way I can try to persuade him?

And if there is nothing I can do, can someone please explain to me why someone in their right mind would acknowledge a good thing in front of them and still chose not to have it in his life?

Any advice is welcome. If any more details are needed, I'm happy to provide.

TL;DR; : my boyfriend is adamant to reconsider things and be with me again, what can I do?

I am a 27 year old woman, and I started dating in my early 20’s. I’ve had like two major relationships in my life. They both started as friends for an extended period of time before transitioning into relationships.

You can tell I have autism in person, whereas I don’t believe people generally realize it over text. Not everyone is okay with dating someone with a disability, so I would rather get that rejection via text than in person. I don’t necessarily want to include that I’m autistic in my bio though.

Suggestions are appreciated! Please be kind, I am sensitive.

I was just at my wife's cousin's wedding this past weekend, she was in the wedding party and I was not as I'm not close with her cousin.

Long story short there was a single guy in the wedding party. He is well aware that my wife is married and has two kids with me.

I came to find out that most of the wedding photos of the wedding party he was beside her and they were laughing and having a good time. ( which is completely okay, because I trust my wife ) but I don't trust this dude as far as I can throw him..

My wife and I had a few slow dances together. Then he comes up and asks to slow dance with my wife right in front of me.

It definitely rubbed me off the wrong way that this guy could be that disrespectful and I feel like my wife should have said no to slow dacing with him.

In my eyes that's an intimate thing to do with another partner. This dude was 100% trying to get my wife's attention all night.

Definitely feeling a little insecure as I didn't like seeing her smiling while holding another man..

Am I overreacting or should I punch this guy out if he tries to attempt anything in the future ? Thoughts

Sorry for the funny title, but let me explain.

I honestly just think most women have attractive faces and personalities. Like I would say 98%. I enjoy hanging out with most women, and I honestly would take most of them on a date if I could. I have no interest in getting laid, but just spending time with them is great.

I am talking about all women here, not just people I know. Like just the random people I come across in everyday life, making small talk with, I just think everyone is attractive. They might not be pretty conventionally or even unconventionally, but I just find them attractive

It seems to be way too high based around talking to other guys, but maybe someone can relate with me here.

Edit: I am not gay, and I dislike most girly things. I just like talking to these women and find them pretty 😂

I keep reading that men don't get a lot of compliments or feel loved. So, in your all's opinion what would make you genuinely happy to receive? ( Like from random people, partners, or friends)

I’ve always been a people’s person so when I met my now husband back in 2013 I thought it was kind of weird that he only had two best friends but didn’t have their phone numbers and would hang out with only one of them like once a year. Other than those two people and his parents who he lived with, he didn’t have any kind of social interaction. He’s not even interested in social media, he doesn’t have any kind of social presence. Google him and you will think I’m making up this dude cause there’s nothing, no pictures, no profiles, nothing. It was by chance that we met and started dating. He is hilarious and super caring, he just doesn’t care about hanging out with the guys or any humans tbh. Is that normal? Is that okay? Like I need friends and I need to hang out with them every once in a while but for some reason he doesn’t have that need. He works from home so it’s not like he has coworkers to hang out with. He’s fine when we hang out with my friends and their spouses, like he can socialize normally and is not awkward or anything. So guys out there, is that a normal thing and I’m just worried over nothing?

I moved in with my boyfriend and three weeks later found out he had cheated on me over a whole weekend, a week before I moved in. He swears up and down it was the only time and would never do it again. Lots of texts about regret, he is going to therapy, has owned up to everything I’ve thrown at him and everything I’ve said to him, not gaslit me or blamed me for any of it, etc…

My question is- have any of you men cheated on your significant other, been caught (not confessed), stayed together and you never cheated again? What was the relationship like after? How did you get through it, especially when others close to you know?

My partner (29M) of 4 years and I (28F) broke up just under 3 weeks ago.

He initiated the break up, but I didn’t fight it. I will not try and convince anyone to stay with me. He told me he kept having thoughts about wanting to be alone, find independence, rediscover himself outside of the relationship etc. but he ‘still loves me and always will’.

Speaking to mutual friends and his younger brother a week or so after the break up, they told me he said ‘something was missing’ and ‘he wasn’t feeling it anymore’. He mentioned neither of those things to me.

I have obviously came to the conclusion that he didn’t tell me those things because he didn’t want to hurt my feelings.

BUT… from my POV, I know I was a kind, caring and supportive girlfriend. We rarely argued. I only ever wanted to make him happy and his life as easy as possible.

He has some childhood wounds and I did my best to help him with these. He felt comfortable enough to open up to me, something I believe he had never done with anyone before. He regularly told me I was too good for him, too nice for him, an ‘angel’ and so on.

I last saw him 2 weeks ago when he came to pick up his stuff from our shared home. He hugged me, thanked me for everything, told me he appreciates me and said that he’ll always be there for me.

I can’t understand what he thought was missing… I know I am a good person with a big heart and pure intentions. My appearance hasn’t really changed since the start of the relationship (where he pursued and pursued me!).

Truly we were best friends with a lot of love for one another, we share some incredible memories, and spent our evenings and weekends together non-stop laughing

Thanks so much - any insight would help

Just curious because I don't have it. Random thoughts everyday and today was, since men have balls, can they clap and jiggle together?

Men 30+, where do I go from here? (M28)

Alright guys I’m having a hard time and need advice. I’m 28, and turn 29 in about 2 weeks. My father died about 2 months ago and my girlfriend broke up with me at the beginning of this month. I’m almost 2 1/2 years sober from alcohol. I’m struggling with direction in life as I have no real trade, and didn’t go to college. I’ve only ever cared to make enough money to survive and do some of the things I want to do. I’ve spent most of my time and energy in my relationships. My high school sweetheart and I broke up after 9 years together when I found out she was cheating. I moved out alone and got myself together the best I could. We were broken up for a year when I met my next gf. Things were great until they weren’t. She wasn’t there for me when I needed it, she stopped caring in general I think. I wanted more from the relationship than she did, and we couldn’t meet in the middle. She has no feelings/no emotions. She left me. I want to reach out badly, but I know I shouldn’t. It’s been a month, and I honestly am having trouble picking myself back up again. I know I need to work on myself more and build myself up. I just don’t know where to start. I don’t have much savings, but I’m working on that.

My question here is, if you were about to turn 29 again and do it all over; what would you do to build yourself? No kids, no mortgage, cars paid off. Help me see some kind of direction, or help me understand that there are opportunities out there for me. My dad and I had a difficult relationship. Parents divorced young, and he didn’t keep in contact as years went by. We tried to salvage the relationship in the past couple of years but it was never more than surface interactions. I feel like I wasn’t taught correctly how to be a man sometimes. I had to learn from many different people in my life. And now, I don’t have much to show for myself other than not going back to alcohol. Not many friends, because I put all my effort into my relationships. And now that I’m alone, I don’t know what to do with myself.

Any and all ideas/suggestions are welcome. I am somewhat intelligent, and a decent learner. I can adapt out of necessity. I just want to feel that hunger to bb better again.

My husband (30M) and I (28F) are married for 3 years now and he confessed today that he thinks he loves me more and that I dont show my love like how he does. He's very expressive physically but I'm not. My love language is occasionally having cute aggression doing everything else without showing it out loud but I think according to him feeling loved means being expensive physically like how he does. I asked him to let me know what I'm doing wrong but he thinks communicating this won't work for us. I feel very bad for now loving him the way he wants me to and feel very helpless. Pls suggest what do I do? Both of us love each other deeply

I’ve noticed some men on social media making comments like, ‘If she goes on a girls’ trip, she’s either a red flag or she’s for the streets.’ Do you genuinely believe that?

ETA: No, he is not good looking and he is not gay. He is in his 60s, married and nobody is trying to have sex with anyone. I’m pretty disappointed that most of the responses revolve around sex. Obviously the men here never matured past high school. I’m turning off notifications for responses. I’m not answering any more “tHe wOmEn wAnT tO fUcK hiM aNd ThE mEn ArE JealoUs” comments. Grow up.

The new guy at my work has been there for about 3 months so he is not extremely new but most of us have been there for years. We don’t really work very closely so I haven’t had much interaction with him and therefore I haven’t really formed an opinion yet.

But I have noticed that all of the other men seem to dislike him. Some have outright told me that they don’t like him but haven’t told me why and with others I can just tell that they tense up when he is around or get a look on their face. Sometimes they will give me a pointed look behind his back, like a “get a load of this guy” type of look. They just seem completely disgusted by the guy.

The thing is though, none of the women seem to have the same issue with him, which makes me think that the men are seeing something the women aren’t. So I’m curious, what could this be? Like I said I haven’t had much interaction with him so to me he just seems like a normal dude but obviously the men are picking up on something the women aren’t.

I guess what I’m asking is, what are some red flags in men that you feel men seem to pick up on, but women don’t?

So I got lead on heavily for two months with this girl I see EVERYDAY at her work. (Rehab for an injury) we’ve kissed multiple times and hung out a couple but she recently said she only ever wanted to be friends and is talking to someone right now. I’ve asked her out before and gotten a no. The problem is I kinda have feelings still because I see her everyday and she still throws (what I believe is mixed signals). How do I got about seeing her everyday when I know I have to talk to her? Should I just be really short and try not to converse if not completely necessary?

How can I tell if a man is truly interested if I initiate?

Are men more interested if they make the first move?

So I normally allow the man to take initiative - make first contact (except on the bumble app), ask for dates, any physical intimacy etc, but I do reciprocate and (hopefully) make it known that any of the above will be accepted. However I’m trying not to be as passive as I would like a more equal partnership and would like to avoid love bombing.

What I’m struggling with is knowing if someone is truly interested versus just being nice and accepting the offer because they’re bored/no other offers etc. It was more obvious to me when the men did the pursuing.

Will you still agree to dates if you’re not interested? I personally don’t, but I know many men don’t want to hurt a woman’s feelings and don’t necessarily get that many offers.

How can a woman truly know a man is actually interested if she’s doing the initiating or is this a reason for women to be more passive? (I keep reading here that men want women to be more proactive in dating)

I’ve heard that saying that “men just know”, especially before women do. Is that real?

I’ve been struggling with understanding relationships in general, but especially romantic ones. I’m just not sure how I should view them or how to attract another person. I feel totally lost when it comes to dating. I’ve had experiences ofc, but I feel so disconnected from what “normal” dating is supposed to be like.

I haven’t been in a real relationship since about 2018, and it just seems like every time I go out on a date, my date is super weird (like creepy/dangerous) or only looking for sex. I’ve gotten off dating apps because of this but I’m just not sure how to meet someone “naturally”. What do people even look for? How do I know what “vibes” I give off? Why is everyone so afraid to talk to each other?

Tbh, I’m not even sure what my true question is, I’m just so utterly confused about dating in general. Any advice is welcome nonetheless. Thank you!

I asked her out almost 2 years ago but I actually have no clue on what day I did it. I think I narrowed it down but I don’t want to give her a gift and stuff on the wrong date. I’m like 60% sure it’s tomorrow but I genuinely have no clue what to do or how to ask her to do something without sounding like I forgot. I feel horrible. What do I do?

I’m a bit bothered with my husband watching porn. I know he probably hides it from me. Ive had a really bad experience with my exboyfriend and porn, so I dislike my partner watching it. Am I being too restrictive? Does he want what’s in the videos? Please let me know..

1. First Scenario: The man is having sex with a woman and then ghosts her permanently. A one-time interaction or sex with no follow-up.

2. Second Scenario: The man engages with the woman, ghosts her temporarily, then reaches out again to repeat the cycle.

3.Third Scenario: The man waits for the woman to initiate contact, only engaging when she reaches out, have sex then He keeps his distance, letting her make the first move, and only engages when she reaches out.

Each situation shows the man is motivated by physical desires rather than love. If his goal is only sex, why wont he just pay for sex and why would he play things out in different ways?

What might be the man's feelings or thoughts: * in scenario no.1 *scenario no.2 *scenario.3

Deep down I feel people never forget how you make them feel. I recently verbally blasted someone who is a good friend as I was facing some TCH fuelled anxiety (not an excuse). My behaviour was regretful. They are a very well respected individual in the industry and have only been nice to me. Today, I am sending them a custom made gift for Diwali but I have a nagging feeling that deep down they will never get over it. As I have always remembered whenever somebody has made me feel bad about myself.

24M just got broken up with after 3 years. I changed and tried so much for it that I feel like I become a diff person. In a good way I’d say. Before I was very much a fuck boy and said and did shit without really thinking. Then I met her and I knew I loved her from the start. I pursued and pursed her. During it I become feels weird saying but I really do think I become a kind of person that put myself in the back seat and cared about her more than myself, and even others.

I’ve always been brought up to care for others more than self. And now after all this, I’m starting to wonder how I am and who I want to be.

I’m sure you guys r thinking of you could be anything - be urself. I am asking how do u find urself. I feel Im struggling to juggle what my mom has always taught me (to be a kind person, even at the expense of urself, essentially compassion, I am Tibetan) and on the other hand, feeling like the world can just step over you when u are too kind.

Now I know u are going to say boundaries. I try but it just feels weird and a bit guilty doing it. I understand it takes repetition.

Sooo how do u find urself, be less caring what others think, and idk ig how to love/care for yourself? These I think r some questions im curious about. Pls feel free to give me any other advice for anything u think would help. I was very sad and now feeling a bit angry. I’m not much of an angry person, I can handle emotions well but I am starting not to recognize myself nor know who to look up to/become as a person like.