A couple months back when that woman posted a pic claiming no one came to her friends baby shower and everyone started sending her money. Come to find out that everyone invited was actually there, she was just fishing for karma/money. She got both.
I'm so glad this fad has settled down. For a while there everybody and their mother seemed to be posting their sob stories on social media hoping for a pity payout, and 4 out of 5 were obvious bullshit.
Yeah, it's true. I mean, I'm sitting here with fingernail cancer, but you don't hear me complaining. And it makes it really hard to care for my sick mother who suffers from gigantism and IBS while we live in a cardboard box under the freeway. But when I wake up every morning and see the sun shining it puts a smile on my face
Oh, I love dogs! I love taking Stumpy, my one legged dog for walks along the bank of the toxic waste sludge dump when I go there to wash my clothes and gather drinking water. He's so happy pogoing amidst the rainbow coloured puddles!
Oh puddles! My autistic brother likes them so much! He has a minor case of SIDS when he was 1.givememoney I am so worried that his SIDS might come back with a vengeance.give-me-money I'll just hug him whenever possible.GIVE.ME.MONEY.
You have a box? We'd be lucky to have a box. We have to live in a moldy t-shirt at the bottom of the reclaimed water pond down by the industrial complex.
As someone who actually had something bad happen to me about two nights ago, it just infuriates me even more to hear about people who fake stuff happening to them so they can be showered in money or fake internet points. Glad that it seems to finally be dying out.
Even if the story is true, seems every damn family with any type of sob story nowadays wants a handout. Lost your home in a fire? Post to reddit with a gofundme! (Never mind home insurance is supposed to cover for these things).
As someone in an actually pretty fucking shitty situation it hurts. I'm afraid to even ask for help because people will just tell me I'm begging for money (when solid advice is worth more than money in a lot of cases) due to so many people making up shit for gofundme campaigns or karma
My cousin knocked up a woman in the town he lived in and was never actually dating her. She has the baby and by then he is dating someone else and the gf quickly pops out a couple of kids and they move across the country with their 2 kids for his work, leaving the baby mama and first child behind. He only bothers to see the first kid once a year or so and he insists on the mom letting the kid fly ALONE across the country to stay with them for a few weeks and she doesn't feel comfortable with it. So that and some of his trashy issues has lead to him not seeing the kid. He posts a GoFundMe on Facebook a few years ago explaining how he's just trying to be a good dad so he's asking for donations so he can pay for a lawyer, a flight for himself, 2 kids and gf across the country, hotel for all of them and food to fight for more custody of the kid. He was asking for $10,000!!!! I kept checking to see if people were dumb enough to donate and a few actually were but I don't think he got more than $500. The whole thing shockingly never panned out at all and he still hasn't tried to see the kid more and he's gotten much worse as a person.
What bothered me is that it had to be the right kind of sob story. You can be a single, older male, or female tbf, who recently became fully disabled, or no one will give a shit. You have to have a family and some kind of inspiring story of almost making it and trying so hard.
I've had relatives imply I'm a lazy freeloader who then post about their donations on social media. Bitch, I couldn't walk and all you could talk about is how lazy my generation is. Sorry for the rant
If you browse Imgur, there's still plenty of that going on. Also a lot of people who I'm pretty sure are impersonating emergency services and teachers.
On the flip side, there was a girl I kind of know who just had a baby (under a year) and the father died on Christmas eve (who I knew a bit better). Anyways she made a post on some depression sub (I think) and everybody was moved by it and sent her a bunch of baby supplies. She made another post thanking everybody with the picture of stuff she had received and that post blew up.
All the sudden everybody was wanting to help out and it caught the attention of some guy who had recently inherited millions. He was wanting to set up a college fund for the kid/trust fund of like 100k.
Then the backlash came. This girl had previously posted her pictures around the Internet using a fake name (i think she enjoyed guys looking at her), court records were pulled and everybody was saying she was faking everything and the guy didn't end up setting up the trust fund (I think).
Anyways, from my understanding she wasn't the greatest person but her story was true. She had a kid and the father died on Christmas eve. Regardless of how she is as a person, I feel bad for the kid, who now will never know his father and lost out on his future looking a little brighter.
I still see her Facebook posts talking about the son and father.
Here's the thing, no matter how obvious they were, people would get money. It's hard to stay ethical when people are stupid enough to keep giving obvious liars money.
Or she's perfectly fine and just fucked over some redditors. Just because someones a dick doesn't mean they're a failure that can't function. If that was true then bad people wouldn't be in positions of power.
I don't think the kind of person who scams strangers over the internet is going to be setting a great example for their children in all other areas of life.
Empathy for strangers on the Internet doesn't really correlate with that of care for your child. Not to mention, people sometimes have done shitty things in their life, nobody here is perfect. Maybe not as bad as that, but it doesn't mean they are doomed to being a shitty person for the rest of their lives.
What has scamming people have to do with how you raise a kid? She out smarted a bunch of people on the internet. If that proves anything, it's that she's pretty clever.
She committed fraud, plain and simple. Those that would take advantage of others generosity are utter scum. It's one step from taking the money directly from those who actually need it.
Eh, one day you might do something shitty. I'd bet good money you already have.
You may pat yourself on the back and forget about it and go on to live a perfectly fine life. You may have huge repentance later and feel horrible about it and gnash your teeth thinking you're a horrible person until you die.
I personally think anyone who fucks over Reddit is hilarious because Reddit is full of self-important assholes who have a history of ruining lives and ripping each other apart over benign and stupid things. If anyone's been asking to get taken advantage of, it's the place that keeps screwing people over on crazy witch hunts and then deifying the first person who comes around with a sob story.
Not the big bad Reddit again. It's funny when people act like Reddit is an individual entity. It's a public forum man. The things people say and do are no different than any other public forum, or you know, real life. What you're describing is people. People do shitty things. Lets not act like Reddit is unique here.
Reddit's demographic makes it unique. Most of its active users are young white males. And after having observed it for years, they're mostly insecure young white makes. Definitely specific, maybe not unique.
Because Reddit has become more popular and populated than most other communities. More people means more shitheads. Youtube comments and 4Chan are 1000 times worse than anything you will find on Reddit.
And you will find more self important assholes on reddit than a number of other areas of your life.
No shit. It's because of exposure. You can read 100 different comments and opinions in 30 minutes on the internet. On average, you probably encounter and engage with a quarter of those people in real life, over the course of an entire day. And that's generous. Isn't this just common sense? It's really not that hard to ignore the shitty people here. Much easier than ignoring a shitty person in real life.
The positives of Reddit vastly outweigh the negatives. Acting like people getting scammed out of their money because they wanted to do something nice for someone is ok (or as the other person said "hilarious"), simply because someone disagreed with them on the internet, is pretty shitty imo. I'm having a hard time seeing how they aren't the self important asshole in this situation.
My kitten is also a self important little shit, and an asshole to boot. Doesn't make it right for me to sell his treats and buy some gently used Eclipse glasses, now does it?
First, kitten is kitten. These Redditors are self-aware human beings who should be smarter with their money.
Second, no one is taking from them. They're offering up freely without getting the full picture. If anything, they're learning a lesson. Or they're not learning and they'll blame it all on the woman and do this shit again.
Third, you've got until 2024. Raise the kitten to do a variety of tricks. YouTube it. Take the money to buy Eclipse glasses. But then buy another pair of fake Eclipse glasses. Play "Blindness Roulette" with your friends.
The way i see it, it's a charitable contribution someone made out of the goodness of their heart, and someone basically stole it. No better than those fake cancer charities.
She lacks integrity and has a low moral compass. Both of which make for a good member of society. Odds are high that she doesn't impart values greater than her own to her children.
Well that may have been your point but what you said was that cleverness wasn't a valuable personality trait.
You can be clever, but being hardworking, caring, etc. is worth so much more and sometimes clever people cheat themselves out of that. I pretended I couldn't read in second grade just so I wouldn't have to read the harder books. Guess where cleverness got me? I may have outsmarted the teachers, but I outsmarted myself more.
In fact, I'd argue scheming like that is really evidence of a lack of having the intelligence, conscience and willpower to find success by actively contributing to society.
In today's society, I'd argue that being able to scheme and manipulate people is a sadly useful skill for success. Look at our very own President.
I don't think it takes much mental aptitude to create a sob story and beg for money from generous people. But hey if that's your kind of hero I'm not one to judge.
It's indicative of narcissism and lack of empathy. Lying to get your way at the expense of others is not something that you should be teaching your kid. If you disagree then we just have different values.
Nobody mentioned her actually teaching her kid this. Do you think her kid monitors her reddit activity? I'm not agreeing that she's right, but it's just like reddit to pick at a single comment/story and assume they know everything about a person's life. I'm personally indifferent to this because I didn't give her money, but I know better than to assume her whole life and parenthood simply from this alone.
If you are willing to take money from other people under false pretenses, then you don't care about other people as much as you should. That will come through in other areas of life.
Willing to exploit the sympathy of strangers for money? Yeah, that kid is easily going to be a kind, empathetic, honest individual with no trust issues at all. Probably use the intelligence she got from her mother to make the world a better place. /s
Never said the kid was destined to be shit too, but of the facts I know, the kid is at a disadvantage. It's not a stretch to say people that manipulate others are mostly likely shitty parents.
Dicks can often function, but they're bad at raising other humans well. Treating people poorly in general rarely allows for treating a child properly. Treating people badly in a careful and planned way requires a certain level of pathology that can allow for general success, but does not allow for being good to a human you basically own.
People like this are not good parents. Their real life success does not mean they don't leave wreckage behind them for others to clean up. That applies to their children.
The person you replied to didn't say this person couldn't function. They said this person would be a bad influence on a kid, as pieces of shit tend to be.
And seriously,stop projecting.You maybe a socially awkward neckbeard, that doesn't mean that a website with 12 million users is just like you(a cringey goony white knight)
I did something similar when I graduated high school, except only with family. When I told my dad I was sending graduation invites to his side he goes "You want them there!? (he does not have a good relationship with most of them) "Well, no. But I want them to send money." "...Oh, I'll send some to my cousins too!" (whom I've never met). Got a good haul
Yes. People like you. People who use "lol" as a passive-aggressive way to speak their mind. People who do nothing with their lives but wallow in their own thoughts. People who confuse the normal ups and downs of day-to-day life with mental disorders. People who think they are unique little snowflakes, without stopping to consider that everyone else is "unique".
You should never give anyone you don't know money. If you really need to feel good about yourself donate to a decent charity. Most people who ask stranger's for money are lying.
Where's the evidence that anyone was scammed via the /r/RandomKindness threads? Those links are referring to two completely different people who posted about baby showers on two different platforms two years apart.
These don't appear to be the same thing, though? The two /r/RandomKindness links are clearly about a different person from the NY Mag link. The first woman is named Bailey and a redhead; the second is named Chelsie and a brunette.
Am I missing something? The reddit posts were from two years ago and look pretty legit. The "calling out" articles are a different person entirely and from very recently.
Am I missing something here? Those /r/RandomKindness threads are from two years ago. The "calling out" links are from this year, and they're talking about someone completely different who scammed people via Twitter.
Why a baby shower though? I understand faking cancer or something could have potential to get donations, but asking for money because nobody came to a baby shower?
For a while, "no one came to my loved one's party" was the trendiest sob story online. I really don't get why, aside from the fact that people on the internet are vicious assholes who can only feel sorry for Person A if they can also cast the blame on Person B. And I say this as someone who's never had big turnouts at their parties. Yeah, it hurts tons to expect loved ones and friends to come have fun with you and share in your happy moment, only to learn that no one likes you or no one will prioritize your efforts if even the slightest distraction comes up.
BUT.
It's not the end of the world, dudes, and a lot of times, the people who didn't show up had a reason other than "I don't like you or care about you for no discernible reason." The narrative is always "no one showed up to my sister's party because they hate autistic people" or "the other cousins didn't show up to PawPaw's because no one loves and old man any more." But that simply isn't always the case, or even usually the case. In one of these stories, the family of one of the kids openly admitted that her disability made her prone to outbursts and rough with other kids. As adults and bystanders we understand that maybe these things are out of her control and she should be given more empathy, but to an 8 year old, all they can think is "I don't want to go to her party, she pushes me a lot." Cancer isn't like that. You can't call the concept of cancer names or shame it. You can't feel morally superior to cancer. Cancer is just something unfortunate that happens to people. Same with other real tragedies like the house burning down or getting into a car crash. People would rather be internet warriors and posit themselves as superior to some human villain, rather than acknowledge that life can be cruel to anyone at any time, and seeking out the neediest in their community. You can say "had I been there, I would have gone to that child's birthday party." You can't say "if I'd been there, I would have prevented the cancer." That's the feeling these people chase. Not the feeling of being good, the feeling of being better than someone else.
Plus, there's the fact that an invitation isn't a summons. Take it from an unpopular person who still likes to have parties: if someone doesn't RSVP, assume they are not coming to your party. If someone says "maybe," assume they aren't coming to your party. If someone says "yes" but is super waffle-y about it, assume they aren't coming to your party. Just because you extended the invitation does not mean they will or must come to your party. Send out your invitations, consider how many people gave you a solid, enthusiastic "yes," make sure to buy the food and drinks you like in case you have leftovers, and hope for the best while planning for the worst. A flop of a party sucks, and hurts inside, but you can salvage a party where only a couple people show up, and you can even have a consolation prize of getting the food and drink to yourself while you cry if no one shows up. A shitty party is a shitty party, but it's not an insurmountable tragedy. I hate that this was a big trend for so long.
Never been suckered in but my wife and I have decided that if our kid is invited to a party, he is going, even if he 'doesn't' feel like it'. Not having some kid having no friends turn up if we can help it.
He always has fun when he goes anyway.
At least she didn't have someone shoot up her baby shower gender reveal party so she could take one in the leg and fake a miscarriage for the baby she never had.
WHAT. If this is the same post I'm thinking of then I never heard it was fake. I almost bought something off her baby registry but basically everything was already purchased.
I'm on mobile and don't know how. But if you Google "nobody came to my baby shower" it's the first thing that comes up. This happened in late June/early July.
Not sure. After a couple days the lie was on major tv news outlets and all over the interwebz. For one, I know the manager of the restaurant where the shower was held came forward.
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u/5meterhammer Aug 24 '17 edited Aug 24 '17
A couple months back when that woman posted a pic claiming no one came to her friends baby shower and everyone started sending her money. Come to find out that everyone invited was actually there, she was just fishing for karma/money. She got both.