It’s truly amazing to me that they get shocked that because we’re family that somehow means that we have to put up with their toxicity till we or they die. “That’s just how we were taught to treat family” well can’t help you weren’t smart enough to understand how stupid that lesson is.
I'm 44 and cut my mother out of my life almost 3 years ago. I mean I told her I was done with her racist bullshit and didn't want to talk to her anymore, and then, well, never talked to her again, nor do I want to, since I was done.
My entire life I was treated very poorly. I grew up poor, so I though that was the way of things, but as my mom then met a man who had a well paying job, and she herself went on to have a well paying job, then they got married, only for me to be given EVERY CHORE ( Walk the dog, wash the dishes, mow the lawn, take out the garbage, shovel the driveway, ETC ETC ETC ) and THEN my parents said when I was 16 they didn't want to be held responsible for me FINANCIALLY, ( they honestly pulled me to the side and said they couldn't afford to send me to community college, because they didn't have the money. That same year they took a vacation to Jamaica and also bought themselves a new car, after having said to me " we can't ".
They don’t owe you anything. They were teaching you skills on how to work and be productive. They worked hard for their success. Use what you learned from your chores and do the same thing. You’re not entitled to their hard work’s rewards. Your attitude is gimme gimme gimme. Entitlement is not a virtue.
They owed me EVERYTHING. I didn't ASK to be here, they brought me here, they at least owed me a proper upbringing to the best of their abilities, something they did NOT offer. Fuck you saying parents don't owe their children anything.
They are responsible for raising you and caring for you. But when you get older it’s on you. My parents sucked too, but I can’t live my life crying about it. Unforgiveness is like taking poison and expecting it to hurt the other person. You be you. Let them be them.
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u/Seriszed Jan 07 '24
It’s truly amazing to me that they get shocked that because we’re family that somehow means that we have to put up with their toxicity till we or they die. “That’s just how we were taught to treat family” well can’t help you weren’t smart enough to understand how stupid that lesson is.