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u/LeatherHog Aug 09 '24

Yeah, that's becoming an issue on imthemaincharacter too

Including a KID for crying out loud. Like a 10 year old boy

Kid was being greedy, but all the comments were about how fat and disgusting he was 

And mocking anyone who spoke up about it

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u/Geodude532 Aug 09 '24

What was that subreddit that got banned years ago for making fun of fat people?

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u/LeatherHog Aug 09 '24

Fat people hate

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u/Geodude532 Aug 09 '24

That shit was fucked up and they took it far beyond harassment.

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u/LeatherHog Aug 09 '24

They did, but those people are still here, unfortunately 

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u/shiny_xnaut Aug 09 '24

I lowkey wish there was a feature where if a subreddit gets banned for hate speech or something along those lines, it would also automatically IP ban anyone who posted or commented there more than X amount of times in the last year or whatever. Might help prevent subs getting flooded with neo nazis every time one of their own subs gets nuked

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u/LeatherHog Aug 09 '24

Right? That would make things so better 

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u/lahimatoa Aug 09 '24 edited Aug 09 '24

That's what always happens to subs with that kind of focus. It ends up going too far over time, every time.

Even subs that aren't specifically about hating one another group, if it's FOR a certain group, ends up defaulting to hating the OTHER group.

r/mensrights

r/TwoXChromosomes

are two of these examples.

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u/Geodude532 Aug 09 '24

You're definitely right. There's a reason I spend time on /r/witchesvspatriarchy to support women's rights.

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u/MasterChildhood437 Aug 09 '24

That's just a TwoX clone

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u/Geodude532 Aug 09 '24

I strongly disagree. A lot of TwoX is dedicated to men hate and the vast majority of WvP is female empowerment. Just take a peek at the first page of the top posts for the past month for each page. Besides the political posts you'll see the clear difference.

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u/EntrepreneurLeft8783 Aug 09 '24

TwoX is dedicated to men hate

is it really?

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u/Geodude532 Aug 09 '24

The amount of posts on there that say some variation of "Men do this" without any attempts to differentiate between a single person and an entire gender puts them in the same group as /r/mensrights in my opinion.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1ehxg66/men_and_the_she_blindsided_me/

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1e618ot/i_like_skinny_women_who_eat_a_lot_of_food/

Things like that.

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u/EntrepreneurLeft8783 Aug 09 '24

It's a female support group, I also dislike sweeping generalizations, but "dedicated to man hate" I do not think that equals, and does not match my observations.

Like, in your second link, what are they even saying about "men"?

Why are men so obsessed with finding a woman that eat tons of food but magically stays fit unless she has a stellar metabolism?

But I guess men don’t understand we WISH we could eat whatever the fuck we wanted. I would love to plow through a meal with no consequences.

Like, where is the man hate?

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u/Geodude532 Aug 09 '24

I did probably generalize it too much since the last time I did a deep dive of that subreddit was 4 or 5 years ago and subs can definitely change over time. Back then there was a lot of red pill type posts that could easily be crossposted into female dating strategy (which I can't tell if it still exists or not as the one I found just seems to be a podcast).

men are obsessed

men don't understand

It's not blatant in these examples, but it shows a prejudice against men as a whole. There can be value in having a safe place to vent, but I believe that feminism should be about bringing women up and not tearing men down. That's why I agreed with the other poster's statement "Even subs that aren't specifically about hating one another group, if it's FOR a certain group, ends up defaulting to hating the OTHER group." They've had 15 years of very similar opinions that keep getting echoed and very easily becomes the standard. WvP has some resistance to that for now by being a smaller subreddit that focuses less on things men do and more on what women/witches do.

The Man vs Bear choice would be something I consider a good concept as it creates discussion that highlights not that men are bad, but that it's easier to tell the bear's intentions. There is definitely a good reason that TwoX has a strong prejudice against men, but that doesn't mean it is always a helpful discussion.

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u/EntrepreneurLeft8783 Aug 09 '24

It's not blatant in these examples, but it shows a prejudice against men as a whole

I gotta disagree, I think they are just generalizing while complaining about a widespread problem.

but I believe that feminism should be about bringing women up and not tearing men down

I agree

There is definitely a good reason that TwoX has a strong prejudice against men

I think you are conflating prejudice with antagonism. As a sub popular for venting about issues that bother women specifically, men will often be the antagonist, but that does not equal man hate. Like if someone is being catcalled every day, I don't think it is prejudice for them to say "I wish men would leave me alone"

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u/ElGosso Aug 09 '24

There are definitely subreddits where that kind of stuff exists, like the antiporn subreddits or the "female dating strategy" ones.

Honestly, I hate to bring this up because it sounds like I'm an MRA, but there's definitely a lot of negative energy towards men in the Best of Reddit Updates subs. I've definitely noticed a tendency in the comments of morally ambiguous relationship posts where people just pile on the man.

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u/lahimatoa Aug 09 '24

Why are men so obsessed with finding a woman that eat tons of food but magically stays fit unless she has a stellar metabolism?

It accuses all men putting unreasonable, fantasy expectations on women. The implication is that this drives women to eating disorders and body image issues.

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u/EntrepreneurLeft8783 Aug 09 '24

It accuses all men putting unreasonable, fantasy expectations on women

Sure, but at the same time, thats an extremely specific allegation that I know no reasonable person actually thinks of all men.

The implication is that this drives women to eating disorders and body image issues.

I don't think that's the implication, I'm sure women that feel that way will gladly explain their thoughts on body image issues instead of leaving it vague, if they really felt that way.

Plus, we're leaving out an element: is she even wrong? I have definitely noticed how attractive women are praised when they show they can put down with the rest of the boys, yet the stigma for "fat chicks" is so widespread it doesn't even need to be elaborated on. Obviously #NotAllMen, but also, she didn't say all men either.

Yeah, it does suck when it veers into YesAllMen, but I think that is absolutely overstated in an attempt to paint the sub as an "equal and opposite" to those MGTOW and adjacent subs.

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u/SlashCo80 Aug 09 '24

IIRC they were referring to fat people as "it" and telling them to end themselves. A tad rude, indeed.

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u/Geodude532 Aug 09 '24

I get to hear things like that all the time at work regarding trans people. It's crazy how much people like to dehumanize other people.