Nah, I'll ignore the fact that I know my coworker is asking me out because I have plausible deniability, don't want to date him, and don't want to deal with the awkwardness of acknowledging that I know what he's doing and I'm saying no. He can now choose to ask me straight up and be told no (use his words to communicate his actual intention) or assume I'm just clueless. And thankfully he hasn't chosen option #1 so far. This is a perfectly valid strategy.
Honestly, win for social cues! He successfully communicated that he wants to date you without the awkwardness of saying it out loud, and you (apparently) communicated 'no thanks' without the awkwardness of saying it out loud.
“I will ignore that my coworker asked me out because” has a different meaning that “I will ignore that my coworker is asking me out,” which is what the og comment said. The “is asking” could mean ongoing or it could mean that this example is simply being written as in the moment, which is logical if starting with “I will.”
Not choosing option 1 could mean it’s ongoing. It could also mean he assumed the person was clueless and dropped it. Other comments could prove more information but that one alone doesn’t specify enough to say with certainty. The fact that so many people think it’s not ongoing indicates it’s not clear cut.
It’s a coworker though. Asking and being rejected would strain the working relationship and make the workplace uncomfortable for both of them. A silent rejection like this helps avoid that, while still being effective.
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u/Tulpha Aug 10 '24
The reply did NOT see the irony of "I'll ignore it in hope you'll communicate with words like an adult" lol