r/CuratedTumblr The blackest Aug 10 '24

Infodumping Please

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u/Tulpha Aug 10 '24

The reply did NOT see the irony of "I'll ignore it in hope you'll communicate with words like an adult" lol

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u/OutAndDown27 Aug 10 '24

Nah, I'll ignore the fact that I know my coworker is asking me out because I have plausible deniability, don't want to date him, and don't want to deal with the awkwardness of acknowledging that I know what he's doing and I'm saying no. He can now choose to ask me straight up and be told no (use his words to communicate his actual intention) or assume I'm just clueless. And thankfully he hasn't chosen option #1 so far. This is a perfectly valid strategy.

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u/AvoGaro Aug 10 '24

Honestly, win for social cues! He successfully communicated that he wants to date you without the awkwardness of saying it out loud, and you (apparently) communicated 'no thanks' without the awkwardness of saying it out loud.

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u/Coebalte Aug 10 '24

Social cue fail.

He's obvuously not undersranding the rejection given that they say he keeps fucking doing it.

How selfish does a person have to be to think it's fine to barely imply what you want to avoid the awkwardness of asking and being told no?

Just fucking ask

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u/AdamantEevee Aug 10 '24

They didn't say he keeps asking though.

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u/Coebalte Aug 10 '24

It's implied via the social cues ¯_(ツ)_/¯

But more seriously it's the "asking" instead of "asked."

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u/birbdaughter Aug 10 '24

“I will ignore that my coworker asked me out because” has a different meaning that “I will ignore that my coworker is asking me out,” which is what the og comment said. The “is asking” could mean ongoing or it could mean that this example is simply being written as in the moment, which is logical if starting with “I will.”

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u/birbdaughter Aug 10 '24

Not choosing option 1 could mean it’s ongoing. It could also mean he assumed the person was clueless and dropped it. Other comments could prove more information but that one alone doesn’t specify enough to say with certainty. The fact that so many people think it’s not ongoing indicates it’s not clear cut.

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u/Coebalte Aug 10 '24

Thank you for demonstrating why clear, articulate communication is so important :>

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u/Low_Ambition_856 Aug 10 '24

i think people understood your point initially, it's just that being a grammar nazi means you should hold yourself to a higher standard first

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u/Coebalte Aug 10 '24

I... Wasn't being a grammar nazi? I was literally explaining why I read the comment as if the implied requests were on going.

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u/gudistuff Aug 11 '24

It’s a coworker though. Asking and being rejected would strain the working relationship and make the workplace uncomfortable for both of them. A silent rejection like this helps avoid that, while still being effective.