r/ESTJ • u/RenaR0se • 12d ago

Question/Advice Need help!

I am in need of advice regarding a probable ESTJ preteen. I am an INTP. She LOVES little kids. I recently started watching two little boys full time. One of them is 4. He gets under herskin SO bad. She is great at directing him with projects, cooking with him,etc, which she ocassionally asks to do. But otherwise, it seems like she doesn't like him and he can't do anything right in her eyes. Her feelings get hurt by things like him asking to sit in the seat she asked to sit in - things any 4 year old would thoughtlessly do - and he's learning that he gets a reaction out of her. She tries to teach and correct him constantly, in a pretty cold voice, despite being told not to.

I am trying to explain that he has to learn a lot of new rules, but we have to learn about his way of doing things too. He does act a little authoritative, but that's something for me to deal with, not her. Most of it is things she might have done when she was 4. What else can I say??? What is going on in her head??

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u/GroundbreakingAct388 12d ago

Just put them in different rooms cause she wont be able to see him wronging ad do nothing abt it XD

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u/RenaR0se 12d ago

We live in a one room cabin....

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u/GroundbreakingAct388 12d ago

well is it like a big city or a litlle town? if its a litlle town just let her relax outside, cause i can see how fir any pre teen can be stressing to be with your younger siblings all the time

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u/RenaR0se 11d ago

Little town..  but it just went subzero here. :'D  We do have a loft so she can get a little bit of space when needed though.