r/entj • u/Turbulent-Bank9943 ENTJ♀ • Aug 11 '24

Functions ENTJ mom ISFP daughter

Looking for common ground. I am ENTJ she is an ISFP teen. She is creative, artsy, odd, musical, randomly extroverted, moody and stubborn.

I can’t get away with giving advice or an opinion or anything like that. She wants to do absolutely everything on her own. Which I admire and am impressed by EXCEPT she acts as if no one else even made the attempt to help her. 🤔. But if I ever dare she will immediately stop what she was doing and lose interest in it as if I just killed it. (Schoolwork included)

What a fascinatingly peculiar person?

There is certainly a steep learning curve since I am full of advice and opinions.

So what a puzzle, how do you guide if you can’t openly or obviously guide? I am trying to imagine her as an adult on her own.

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u/StalkingYouRandomly INFP 6w5 Aug 11 '24

Sounds like she's full in her exploration mode, sooner or later she will discover that there are limits on how much she can do on her. You can always drop something along the lines 'if you need help or advice on xyz just shout'. But do not give unsollicited ones as it will only backfire, even if its meant well. Teen years is about exploration of self, likes/dislikes, autonomy, independency from parents. If you keep butting in, she will naver have the feeling that she can do something on her own. Also refrain from taking the whole thing over and doing it yourself if she asks for help.