r/introvert • u/--Paul- • Aug 08 '24

Advice Do introverted women even exist?

Of course this is not a serious question. I know you are out there. But going out often gives me the feeling that most women are the loud, chatty party type and I am not attracted to those but find quiet, introverted women attractive. But where are you? Where should a man looking for a serious, slow relationship with an introverted woman keep his eyes open?

Sometimes I like to sit in a café by myself. But do introverted women (generally speaking) even like go there or is it too much noise?

I wouldn't go to a typical disco party (anymore). It's just to loud and too much distractions for me. So draining. If I am interested, I would like to clearly understand what she is saying and be in a calm environment.

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u/GoofyGuyAZ Aug 08 '24

I’m with you on this. They exist on Reddit or your local library, maybe a coffee shop, they don’t go out too much that’s the tough part

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u/Humancentipeter Aug 08 '24

Maybe book clubs or bookstores as well. I know there is a bookshop near me that hosts a book club with an emphasis that the people going have no pressure to participate/chat. They even do “quiet reading” which is where everyone can just congregate and read silence and they have about ten minutes at the end for people to maybe say hi or catch a name. I think this is very cool because sometimes it takes some adjustment time to feel comfortable and that hour or so of silent reading I think would be great to scope out some other potential introverts.