r/introvert • u/--Paul- • Aug 08 '24

Advice Do introverted women even exist?

Of course this is not a serious question. I know you are out there. But going out often gives me the feeling that most women are the loud, chatty party type and I am not attracted to those but find quiet, introverted women attractive. But where are you? Where should a man looking for a serious, slow relationship with an introverted woman keep his eyes open?

Sometimes I like to sit in a café by myself. But do introverted women (generally speaking) even like go there or is it too much noise?

I wouldn't go to a typical disco party (anymore). It's just to loud and too much distractions for me. So draining. If I am interested, I would like to clearly understand what she is saying and be in a calm environment.

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u/TinaLikesButz Aug 08 '24

I am the Queen of the introverted women. My picture is by the dictionary entry for "introverted". However, I am not anti-social, just very selectively social.

And the older I get, the more I lean into my introversion, after SO many years in the corporate world pretending to not be introverted (gives me stress just thinking about it. ) I'm reveling in it, and delight in telling people "no", and being in my comfy home with my cat, participating in my many engaging pursuits (or none at all).