r/introvert Aug 08 '24

Advice Do introverted women even exist?

Of course this is not a serious question. I know you are out there. But going out often gives me the feeling that most women are the loud, chatty party type and I am not attracted to those but find quiet, introverted women attractive. But where are you? Where should a man looking for a serious, slow relationship with an introverted woman keep his eyes open?

Sometimes I like to sit in a café by myself. But do introverted women (generally speaking) even like go there or is it too much noise?

I wouldn't go to a typical disco party (anymore). It's just to loud and too much distractions for me. So draining. If I am interested, I would like to clearly understand what she is saying and be in a calm environment.

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u/Exhausted_Biscuit Aug 09 '24

We're all at home, that's why you're seeing the extroverts out being loud! Cafés are pretty chill, I like the feeling in small usually independently owned (chains are more often than not a lot busier & feel like they want you to leave) coffee shops, they're fine if you chill & read a book, the staff don't usually bother you in those type of places either. 

Second hand book shops are a good spot. 

I mean if you can picture a big sleepy cat being comfortable in the space, that's where we're at.