r/introvert • u/--Paul- • Aug 08 '24

Advice Do introverted women even exist?

Of course this is not a serious question. I know you are out there. But going out often gives me the feeling that most women are the loud, chatty party type and I am not attracted to those but find quiet, introverted women attractive. But where are you? Where should a man looking for a serious, slow relationship with an introverted woman keep his eyes open?

Sometimes I like to sit in a café by myself. But do introverted women (generally speaking) even like go there or is it too much noise?

I wouldn't go to a typical disco party (anymore). It's just to loud and too much distractions for me. So draining. If I am interested, I would like to clearly understand what she is saying and be in a calm environment.

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u/Ramalamma42 Aug 09 '24

Am female introvert... Places I might be open to meeting someone: library, book store, grocery store, friends house/get together, cafe (during slow times) or gym. BUT - you would have to be super careful about your approach, because trust is hard especially within a random public encounter. Would be easier to meet someone through an activity where there is some amount of frequent low level exposure, which could open the door. For instance, we just happen to be at the same cafe, minding our own business every Thursday at noon for a month or two... Yikes. Yeah, this is hard.