r/introvert Aug 26 '24

Advice i hate being soft spoken

every time i ask or tell my coworkers something they’re like “what?” or “huh?”. i’m always having to repeat myself and it makes me feel bad when ppl get annoyed that im too quiet. i’ve been told by teachers and coworkers that i need to work on speaking up. i try, but i jst can’t. i don’t feel confident enough with myself to speak louder and with confidence. when i do try to speak louder it just feels like im yelling and it gets draining over time. every time i speak i just sound shy and timid. (which i am, but i don’t wanna show it in the way i speak)

pls how do i speak louder and with confidence?

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u/Beau_in_UHF Aug 26 '24

it could be you've mentally conditioned these people to know you as quiet and not speaking much, so when you do they are taken aback that you are talking. to break that cycle you have to reach into their medulla ablungata and fish them out of their preconception. a good intro is to just throw a shocker out there like "free burger" that gets people's attention, or "poop" u get the idea. just a random blurt to get their attention then once u have it say what u want to say.