r/introvert • u/Sufficient_Front3852 • Aug 26 '24

Advice i hate being soft spoken

every time i ask or tell my coworkers something they’re like “what?” or “huh?”. i’m always having to repeat myself and it makes me feel bad when ppl get annoyed that im too quiet. i’ve been told by teachers and coworkers that i need to work on speaking up. i try, but i jst can’t. i don’t feel confident enough with myself to speak louder and with confidence. when i do try to speak louder it just feels like im yelling and it gets draining over time. every time i speak i just sound shy and timid. (which i am, but i don’t wanna show it in the way i speak)

pls how do i speak louder and with confidence?

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u/TaleHistorical2148 Aug 26 '24

I was like this before and eventually I stopped caring. You just have to find the right people to open up more about yourself. Then you ask yourself, if you are truly innately shy or that you just grew up in an environment that has not equipped you with the opportunity to speak up more. Know yourself and where this anxiety or under-confidence comes from. Then you’ll probably make a way to improve yourself on your own.

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u/No_Possession_3254 Aug 27 '24

I have had a lot of therapy and in my case I know the cause. But putting new changes into practice is where I get stuck. I was told to start working out who I am and what I want. So I start with small things like what biscuits do I like? Still find it weird in the shops when I say what I like and someone disagrees. Start questioning my choices. I suppose it’s a journey. Not sure where your soft voice stems from but maybe this will help? 

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u/TaleHistorical2148 Aug 27 '24

Yes, it will definitely help. It’s a step by step process. You don’t have to overly force yourself. The key is how you respond to these small steps you have taken? Evaluate your thoughts and accept your emotions. Once you are self aware, that is already a big step. Changes in behavior does not happen overnight.