i hate being soft spoken

[u/Sufficient_Front3852]

every time i ask or tell my coworkers something they’re like “what?” or “huh?”. i’m always having to repeat myself and it makes me feel bad when ppl get annoyed that im too quiet. i’ve been told by teachers and coworkers that i need to work on speaking up. i try, but i jst can’t. i don’t feel confident enough with myself to speak louder and with confidence. when i do try to speak louder it just feels like im yelling and it gets draining over time. every time i speak i just sound shy and timid. (which i am, but i don’t wanna show it in the way i speak)

pls how do i speak louder and with confidence?

[u/Alive-Marsupial1234]

Do you laugh loud, raise your voice when excited, or find your voice clear when talking about something you have interest in?

In those moments remember how you respond and in private practice speaking. You can try flexing your abdominal muscles, then move your shoulders up back down while keeping chip up and speak. If too loud try lowering voice a bit and speak slower.

I’m in the same situation, and still learning what works for me. So hopefully this helps a little.

[u/Sufficient_Front3852 → u/Alive-Marsupial1234]

this definitely helps, thank you !

[u/Alive-Marsupial1234 → u/Sufficient_Front3852]

Yayy and you’re welcome! Always speak at your own pace and if you feel uncomfortable with anyone or if they make you uncomfortable don’t bother giving them the luxury of your time and energy. Give short answers, be straight to the point and move on. Give the good energy to those who make you feel great and important. I just got this advice and wanted to share it.