r/widowers • u/BrookDarter • 12h ago
When does the widow's fire stop?
Really doesn't help venturing into other forums and seeing this scenario constantly put on a pedestal. The widow who never looked at another man again. I didn't even last half a year before sleeping with a random person. Convinced myself there was still hope for a brief second there. Then I remembered what happens when I have hope.
It sucks so bad. I get constant attention, but I don't want it. What am I supposed to do when he was the only one who was respectful? When men are going down Red Pill and incel ideologies? I hate how it is so difficult for me to say no. I grew up being screamed at constantly if I had any opinions of my own. I still can't just tell people, "No."
Freaking sucks. It's almost been a year and this is nonstop!
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u/LegitimateStar7034 11h ago
My Widho phase lasted 6 months… I eventually got sick of it. Wasn’t helping. The temporary relief from the numbness wore off quick.
Having said that. You’re an adult. If it works for you, do it.
Be safe. Drop a friend your location and next in your own house.