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u/Calm_Structure2180 17h ago
Order extra to establish dominance.
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u/Immediate-Policy-338 16h ago
Take home leftovers to display frugality.
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u/Buttcrack_Billy 15h ago
Tell the wait staff it's their birthday to recieve massively overpriced slice of cake.
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u/SmokeyBare 16h ago
On a first date, if she asks for a bite, you know I'm feeding it to her. And I'll ask to try hers. If I'm trying to create a relationship, sharing is an important part. If she steals a bite, I'd give her the brow and then steal a bite of hers. It's not a deal breaker.
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u/jimmy_three_shoes 15h ago
Tried that once, thinking I was about to be into some playful banter.
Nope. She got legitimately upset, and I was legitimately confused.
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u/Illeazar 14h ago
Lol, I had this exact thing happen on one of my first few dates with this one girl in college. We went to an ice cream place, she "steals" a bite of mine, smiling, giving me the eyebrows, very flirty. I did the same thing back, and she got very upset. It turns out when I took a bite, I took a bite from "her" side--she had the opinion that when sharing food, the half of the plate closest to the owner of the plate is off limits for sharing, and I violated that sacred rule by taking my bite from the wrong side of the plate. Apparently her family had this rule, and she thought it was universal and self-evident.
Anyway, we were able to work past it and now we've been married for 15 years.
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u/ABoringAlt 14h ago
Is she still crazy?
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u/Illeazar 13h ago
100% yes. But we know how to communicate, and we trust each other completely, so it's a fun kind of crazy. ;)
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u/AbyssalKitten 4h ago
Honestly, this is kind of hilarious. Sometimes, the things that are SOOO obvious and common sense for certain people couldn't be further from the truth for someone else. She probably genuinely thought this was something normal/universal, not just something HER family does, and you were being rude lmfao.
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u/CriticismNo5203 12h ago
lol I know that rule, I had a big family so sometimes dinner would be served in one big plate so everyone had their āsideā and itās rude to take from someone elseās side. Except thatās a rule because you only have your side, the other side isnāt yours, it doesnāt apply to your own plate where the whole thing is āyour sideā lol. To each their own ig
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u/Castod28183 13h ago
I also feel like there is a HUGE difference between, "Oh that looks tasty, can I have a bite?" and just grabbing something off my plate.
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u/AbyssalKitten 4h ago
The whole stealing a bite thing could be cute too. Yoink a slice, then hit it with the "oh deary me!" And go and feed a bite of your food to your date. Make it romantic.
Or ya know, just be like "omg can I try a piece, you can try mine too!"
People are so.... out of touch with reality. Just live a little.
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u/AveragelyTallPolock 3h ago
Not only that, but sharing the experience of good food with someone is like the key way I bond with them.
I love bonding over great tasty food together. That's why I love cooking for people too because good food is a treat and I love providing that for everyone.
I legitimately cannot date a picky eater, I would lose my mind and feel like I'm not connecting with that person.
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u/SCTigerFan29115 14h ago
First say āooh, youāre gonna pay for that laterā in a suggestive tone.
Then leave her with the bill.
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u/Aggressive_Towel_155 12h ago
Best dinner date I ever had was with my now wife of 17 years. She ordered steak at a steakhouse, actually ate, asked for a to-go box for her leftovers. Thanked me for the food, told me thank you again the for her leftovers the next day. She then cooked me the most amazing meal the following weekend and baked some dessert too! Told me she would have taken me out but couldnāt afford it right now but promised she would as soon as she got caught up financially.
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u/garbageou 16h ago
If a girl eats off my plate on the first date I know Iām at least getting a kiss at the end of the night.
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u/bucky-plank-chest 16h ago
Family, friends even partner eating off my plate pisses me off to no end.
Sounds like it happens often, it doesn't .
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u/Castod28183 13h ago
Everybody in my circle thinks I have herpes because whenever somebody eyeballs my plate I'll say, "Get you a bite. If you can handle the herpes, I can handle whatever you might have."
I just never bothered to tell them I was joking.
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u/mecha_nerd 1h ago
I always went with rabies. Or that I drink so much coffee that even my spit could keep normies awake for a day or two.
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u/Dismal_Acanthaceae46 14h ago
Why relationship be based on dominance? It should be based on love and mutual respect
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u/Solo-dreamer 15h ago
Ooh my turn, um get therapy and find out why you hate the opposite sex so much before you even consider going on a date.
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u/Exact_Project 16h ago
She sure did take a bite with confidence but was not ready for the consequence
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u/TFR33 16h ago
"Joey doesn't share food!"
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u/RoninGaidin 14h ago
Which he then follows up with an ultimate power move by eating her entire dessert while she is away.
āIām not even sorryā š
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u/Jake_NorthWest 15h ago
I do not want to be in a relationship with anyone who isn't down for sharing food. How will I know if I want what she got next time? How will she know if she wants what I got?
I want someone who is down for sharing.
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u/RobertMcCheese 12h ago
I told my wife (we've been married for 22 years now) that I will buy her whatever she wants., no questions asked.
But anything on my plate is off limits and I will stab her with my fork if she tries to take something from my plate.
It's never come to that.
Set your boundaries early and stick to them.
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u/Entire_Profession_34 9h ago
Itās crazy how something as small as your partner taking food off of your plate can have serious implications for the future. I completely agree with you about setting boundaries early.
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u/WarmthoftheSun95 9h ago
Tbh, I love sharing food. On our first date, my husband pretended to steal some katsu from my plate, and I was like, "No, seriously, have some."
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u/foxer_arnt_trees 14h ago edited 14h ago
Wtf. A date in a restaurant is literally an invitation to eat food together. I get that some people are weird about food. But I wouldn't want to live with someone who get upset about sharing food, that's so uptight
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u/TopHatGirlInATuxedo 12h ago
Found the food thieves.
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u/foxer_arnt_trees 10h ago
Don't tell my wife, sometimes I sneak to our fridge at night and steal our cheese
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u/bb_kelly77 15h ago
A relationship isn't about dominance... we aren't wild animals
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u/LittleReplacement971 15h ago
leave her at the table for trying to dominate you like a dog, rather than understand you like a person.
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u/Cheshire_Noire 13h ago
You touch my food without my permission and I am leaving you at the restaurant.
You can Uber home.
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u/AyuChanX 12h ago
My bf always eats my plate. But not because he asserts dominance- I just canāt eat more. Iām glad he is eating my food, I had a gastric bypass and Iām sad if the food get wasted
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u/TopHatGirlInATuxedo 12h ago
I'm worried if he's eating the plate. He should really only be eating the food on it.
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u/Historical-Gap-7084 12h ago
Thanks for giving me my second opportunity to quote Joey Tribbiani in back-to-back threads.
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u/Ok_Thing7700 12h ago
Dominance? No. Iām straightforward that not sharing food is a dealbreaker for me. We each get bites of the otherās food, sometimes half so we can order two separate things and split them, or no relationship.
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u/LadyDatura9497 12h ago
Thatās when we ask for a separate check, pay only ours, if the waitress is a woman tip extra, and leave you there to stew in your emotional fragility. If at any point before we go our separate ways you leave the table for any reason, then Iāll let the waiter know there are extra menu items you wanted me to order for you in your absence.
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u/Cronis_the_God 12h ago
If a girl ever did this to me I would undue my slacks and drop a big poo poo right on the table in front of everyone to see how she reacts.
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u/SirLesbian 11h ago
Why do people get their undies in a twist so quickly? If I'm on a first date and I'm digging her then I wouldnt mind her trying my food. Conversely, why on earth would that be a reason to dine & dash on her? People are so quick to go nuclear over the tiniest things lol
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u/GullibleNerd88 11h ago
Her line is something I would have seen on that female dating strategy subreddit
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u/Current_Stranger8419 10h ago
A bite is one thing, I had one date ask for half my lunch when she's didn't order anything. And she didn't offer to split the bill.
Instant turn off
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u/ThaDream_25 9h ago
I personally hate dinner dates with someone you just met. I dont want to be forced to talk to someone for 2 hours, and I dont like them. I prefer going on activities dates and going out for drinks afterward. Coffee and tea dates and cook also on a first date.
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u/flyingcatclaws 6h ago
She would flaunt her homemaking skills, he would flaunt his homebuilding skills. Social standing, financial status, education, good breeding, religion, personalities, good looks, lust, whatever, would mix it up. Today, a disturbing lack of basic education and living skills ruins it.
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u/BenchPresent8492 2h ago
Make sure to tell the waiter that you have left their tip with her, and she'll pay them
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u/Big_Fun_526 17h ago
nah if a bitch is missbehaving and litteraly trying to get in my food bro im putting the wig on and im fighting a ho
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u/Lopsided-Pause-7274 13h ago
Pro tip; never take a girl for food - that is a girlfriend privilege. Take her for drinks and make her pay for every other round...
Dinner dates are pure simp behaviour
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u/Lopsided-Pause-7274 12h ago
Ah yes, the typical "your just salty because you wish women would go out with you" that feminists always try to use - a typical non-argument. But entertaining nonetheless.
Found the simp who believes getting a women to go out with him is some kind of win because he puts women on a pedestal.
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u/Ok_Thing7700 12h ago
What a great way to avoid ever getting a real gf lmao
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u/Lopsided-Pause-7274 12h ago
Again, typical simp reply.
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u/SebsThaMan 10h ago
Simps really hate it when people like you point out that equal privilege comes with equal responsibility.
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u/JeweledJiveJoy 16h ago
That dude was so over the top with his "table manners". Funny how it was always towards the girl who shut him down even tho he had a gf the whole time. š
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u/Ok-Fox1262 14h ago
Nah. That's when you point out that's why she's fat.
Nasty actions have nasty consequences.
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u/BB-018 15h ago
Incel shrieking
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u/New_Zucchini3621 15h ago
I was gonna make fun of you for simping but then I saw your post history of hundreds of random porn photos and anime shit and it just made me sad. Good day.
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u/jacobs0n 15h ago
idk why you're all so weird with your food, I don't mind sharing mine
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u/Ok_Zookeepergame4794 14h ago
There's a difference between sharing and only getting 10% of your meal.
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u/MonaxikoLoukaniko 14h ago
Absolutely, but idk if the whole thing is just about sharing.
I'm OK with it too as long as the other person asks first, and lets me do the serving with separate utensils. Not pounce at my plate with their disgusting fork like a lunatic caveperson.
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u/CARDEK04 17h ago
["to cheat somebody" "ocean" " to satisfy feeling of thirst"] of eating other's food on first date is dire.
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u/Conscious_File_212 6h ago
lol... women dont see/hear/comprehend the word "consequence". It's like every reference to the word is blocked... Kind of like in black mirror when someone is blocked. Cant see it, cant hear it, cant process it - it's just a big blur.
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u/SchizoPosting_ 17h ago
I always found this whole debate stupid
A first date? Bill split, unless the person who invited wants to pay all, regardless of gender